Jul 17, 2012 - 1:48 am
How have you ladies dealt with telling people when cancer recurs? I only let a few people know when my CA 125 rose in April. They have been there for me the last three months. Now that I know my remission is over, I find I am not sure how to let the rest of my family and friends know. When I was first diagnosed in 2010 I was so sick that all my family and friends were told. I remember that first day there were so many people at my house. Over the next few days I had visitors coming and going.
My mom wants to tell people but I had her wait until I saw the doctor which was last Thursday. It isn't that I want to keep it a secret, I don't, but I hate being the voice of doom and gloom. I have even hesitated calling one of my longtime friends because I hate the thought of upsetting her.
I tried to prepare people from the beginning about the high rate of recurrence but I think it will still be hard for them to hear that it's back. I know I don't have to tell "everybody" but there are a lot of people who I feel should know. For the other people in my life I think it will be a case by case situation where if I see them and they ask how I am, I will tell them.
Any suggestions? I don't think my mom fully understands how I feel. Why should she, I don't really understand it myself. I don't think she has told anyone because she thinks I don't want her to. I just don't want to be the cancer girl. Guess what, it's back, guess what I'm back in remission, guess what it's back again. I don't want people to feel sorry for me. I also don't want them to feel sad when they think of me.