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Does this happen to anyone else?
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Jun 17, 2012 - 1:29 am
It's the middle of the night and I just raked up enough courage to ask this. Does anyone else have a severe aversion to intimacy..of any kind? I find that being touched by anyone, anywhere, is absolutely repulsive to me. The very thought of having sex or a routine check-up makes me sick to my stomach. Even a hug from one of the grands makes me almost hyperventilate! I would like to know I'm not crazy, but I'd rather be crazy than to be touched ever again! Best, debrajo |
Joined: Jan 2012
Debra Jo...I have not experienced this (although sex has not been an issue for me because that stopped some time ago.
We go through so much dealing with with our disease and, with the other stresses you have experienced, it may be you in a place where you only want to be with you. I only hope you are not becoming depressed. Please keep an eye on that.
I almost crave the contact, a hug here a touch there. In the beginning I was not like that and that is where I found the light from the support everybody gave me.
I found a post once that said "I CAN WILL GET THROUGH THIS-ONDE DAY AT A TIME, ONE HOUR AT A TIME, ONE MINUT AT A TIME IF NECESSARY BUT I WILL BE OKAY AND WILL GET THROUGH THIS.
I AM GETTING THROUGH THIS.
I printed it and carry it in my wallet.
You will (as always be in my thoughts and prayers with wishes to get through this rough patch.
Take care,
Pat
Joined: Sep 2010
Echos in my mind. You are so brave to write about it!
Don't mean to act like a psych, even tho I am one, but every organism needs to make physical contact of even the most superficial sort, handshake or ET phone home contact, some thing. Do you have a dog or cat? Start with that, your stressors may have cause you to raise a wall around to protect you, make a small opening to let trust of others seep in ever so lightly.
Keep being your gutsy self but let a teeny tiny bit of warm sunshine in.
Cyber hugs don't mess you up! You are normal just a bruised bunny.
Crazy idea let kids and you have toe nail polish date, putting it on each other's toes. No colors barred!
Good luck, if you can be in this Cancer Battle and not lie down and belly up,, you can do anything!
Chaya Sara Zipora
Joined: Sep 2011
Dear Pat and Chaya Sara Zipora, Thanks for the kind responce to what has been a very hard, strressful time for me. I know I have depression that I manage to keep under control most of the time. I think a few cyber hugs are all I can tolerate. Not to be a big whiner, but this has been building for a long, long, time. I have been hurt by so many "friends and family" that the wall's have really gone up. Just between us girls, after the hysterectomy, chemo and then radiation, I refused to use the dialator just so I could have some control over my own body, and yes, to spite my husband. Childish I know, but it gave me a perversed since of joy that "that" part of my life was over. I just want to be totally on my own, to answer to no one but me. I know I sould over the edge, but I can see why some older women go into a convent, service to others, peace and quite, time to think and pray...all that sounds so ...healing. Thinks for listing and responding. Best always, debrajo
Joined: Jan 2012
You feel how you feel and people cannot tell you to feel one way or the other. Stress manifests itself in so many ways. Being hurt by those you believed in hurts. As I have eluded to I have similar issues and constantly try to figure out what I did to be the number 1 turd on the crap parade!
I believe with time, you will find the inner strength to get past this and I do send those thoughts skyward each night for you.
Have a wonderful week.
A cyber hug to you.
Pat
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