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KTaylor85
Posts: 2
Joined: May 2012

Hi,

My mother died this past December 2011..3 days after my 26th birthday. She was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in October 2011, and it had already spread to her liver, lung, and bone. I didn't and still to this day can't comprehend it. It happened so fast, and me and my mother were so close. I am the youngest of three and I was the last to leave home.. I was very attached to her and I didn't think that she would really die..I just didn't think that God would take her away..but he did. Since she has passed, I have extreme anxiety, and I have an overwhelming feeling that something is wrong with me too.. I don't know if there is anyone else who has lost someone close who experienced this as well.. Any pain or not so normal feeling I have I think that I may die or that I'm sick.. I know it's not rational, and I know it derived from my mother's death..but I just can make it go away.. I'm looking into support groups and therapist to talk to.. Has this happened to anyone else?

david54
Posts: 115
Joined: Apr 2009

I think what you are experiencing is not that unusal. And it may be more pronounced because of the upcoming Mothers Day. Anxiety and grief manifest itself in a number of ways. A therapist, joining a support group is imperative. And a thorough checkup from your doctor-I did all three and it was painful but it helped me heal. I started eating better, joined a running club, cried, pounded my fist, yelled (in therapy) and journaled. I'm not suggesting that running is a cure all, but excercise in general is beneficial.

Losing someone is painful at times umberable, and as hard as it may be for you now, it will help to seek out support. You are worth it.

David

KTaylor85
Posts: 2
Joined: May 2012

Thanks David. Your words helped me a lot. I guess I've been afraid of going to the doctor because I think what happened to my mom will happen to me..so I have been avoiding it. I need an outlet of some sort, so I will seek some support in my area.

mroyal87
Posts: 6
Joined: Jul 2012

You are not alone. I know exactly how you feel. My mom passed away from pancreatic cancer two months ago and I feel completely alone. I'm 24 almost 25 and I wasn't ready to lose her yet. I think somewhere in my mind I had prepared for the worst but it's something you can never fully prepare yourself for. When you talked about thinking something is wrong with you too it was a
Huge relief for me because I've felt the same way and I felt like I was going crazy. I can't force myself
To go to the doctor cause I'm always afraid they are going to find something. I miss my mom so much. She was my best friend. My heart goes out
To you. I'm sorry for your loss.

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