I am very scared!
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Welcome
I am so sorry for the need to be here but you will be so glad you found this place. It is full of wonderful women and a few great guys. You will find so much wisdom and support. I think we can all relate to the whirlwind,a lot happens in a short amount of time. Your case is different from mine but I am sure someone with a similar experience will post soon. My kids were grown so they were the first people I told and a few close friends until I had more info. I know someone will have answers for you, never be afraid to ask anything here. God Bless
(((hugs))) Janice0 -
SorryBoppy_of_6 said:Welcome
I am so sorry for the need to be here but you will be so glad you found this place. It is full of wonderful women and a few great guys. You will find so much wisdom and support. I think we can all relate to the whirlwind,a lot happens in a short amount of time. Your case is different from mine but I am sure someone with a similar experience will post soon. My kids were grown so they were the first people I told and a few close friends until I had more info. I know someone will have answers for you, never be afraid to ask anything here. God Bless
(((hugs))) Janice
Sorry you had to find us here, but glad you're here if you need us.
It is a whirlwind, but since waiting is one of the tougher parts, whirlwind is good.
When I was diagnosed in 4/09, my husband and I were raising our granddaughters then 16 and 13. I chose to not tell them anything until I knew biopsy results IDC, stage IIIa with 2/14 lymph nodes involved. That will hopefully will not make sense to you ever because you will be found to be cancer free. Anyway, I didn't tell the girls until I could tell them with certainty that it was b/c and what we were going to be doing about it. So in one conversation I told them the doc had found a lump it was b/c the doc was doing a lumpectomy, then chemo, then rads then I'd be fine, and yes that did me I was a survivor from that moment on (that impressed them) and yes I would be losing my hair (that didn't impress them, but they never made me feel bad when I was bald). You have to tell them in an age appropriate manner of course, but I think and the girls both told me that hearing everything made it easier. McKenzie (the younger) said after treatment that she wasn't scared because I told her what was going on, I told her what they were going to do, they did it and now you're fine.
Hope this helps. Feel free to come here anytime. Keep us posted on your results.
marge0 -
Lending my support
First let me say that you have come to the right place for support and information. The ladies (AND gentlemen) that post here have a wealth of experience - unfortunately - upon which to draw. We call ourselves the Pinks or the Pink Warriors. My initial presentation of what turned out to be breast cancer was different than yours but was stressful just the same. I had Intra-ductal Carcinoma (IDC), Stage IIa,Grade 3. No cancer was ever found in the breast tissue itself just in the lymph nodes. Only an extremely high tech Tissue of Origin Test was able to determine this was a breast cancer as opposed to some other type. This was 3 years after my husband went through a bout with colon cancer.
You are so right about feeling like you are at the center of a whirlwind. That is WAY better than ignoring the problem and letting it grow. The earlier the problem is diagnosed the earlier and more easily it can be dealt with. How you tell your children depends on how old they are. It's like having the "birds and the bees" talk - you tell them in an age appropriate way and answer their follow-up questions the same way. My son was 19 and my daughter was 17 at the time of the diagnosis. My son lived at his university and my daughter was a junior in high school. She was living at home so there was no way to hide something of this magnitude from her nor did I want to. While she was, of course, upset I think she was glad to know that something was being done about it and that my overall prognosis was good. As far as telling other family, my dad is a doctor (not an oncologist) so I called him as soon as I started doing the diagnostic testing. He interpreted what was going on to my mom. I called my sister myself. We have never gotten along particularly well but she stepped up when all this happened. Everyone will handle this differently.
Please keep us posted on what is happening. Since you are having a biopsy on Friday, I imagine you will get the results next week. We will be better able to share our specific experiences when you have your pathology results and maybe a treatment plan. My thought are with you. Do we need to send the Pink Bus?
IRENE0 -
Geannine,mwallace1325 said:Sorry
Sorry you had to find us here, but glad you're here if you need us.
It is a whirlwind, but since waiting is one of the tougher parts, whirlwind is good.
When I was diagnosed in 4/09, my husband and I were raising our granddaughters then 16 and 13. I chose to not tell them anything until I knew biopsy results IDC, stage IIIa with 2/14 lymph nodes involved. That will hopefully will not make sense to you ever because you will be found to be cancer free. Anyway, I didn't tell the girls until I could tell them with certainty that it was b/c and what we were going to be doing about it. So in one conversation I told them the doc had found a lump it was b/c the doc was doing a lumpectomy, then chemo, then rads then I'd be fine, and yes that did me I was a survivor from that moment on (that impressed them) and yes I would be losing my hair (that didn't impress them, but they never made me feel bad when I was bald). You have to tell them in an age appropriate manner of course, but I think and the girls both told me that hearing everything made it easier. McKenzie (the younger) said after treatment that she wasn't scared because I told her what was going on, I told her what they were going to do, they did it and now you're fine.
Hope this helps. Feel free to come here anytime. Keep us posted on your results.
marge
My tumor was detected just like yours. My left nipple started retracting inwards and it felt hard too. I also had some skin dimpling. Without knowing what your biopsy results will find, since my nipple retracted too, I was diagnosed as IDC (Invasive Ductile Carcinoma) the most common form of breast cancer. It starts in the milk duct and can spread beyond that. My tumor didn't spread but just grew and grew... So I had to have a mastectomy because a lumpectomy would have left a caved in breast. I opted to have them both removed.
Yes, everything is a whirlwind right now and that's a good thing. The sooner your doctors can assess the tumor the faster you can get treatment. Now with that in mind, don't think the worse about everything or you will worry yourself silly. I had to do chemo, surgery, radiation because of the tumor size and I am now on hormone therapy (Arimidex) to block my estrogen. Every course of treatment they can give you betters your odds of survival. Listen to your doctors and do research. This website The American Cancer Society is a great place for that. I am sure if you even looked hard enough there will even be an article or two on when and how to tell family member.
We are here to hold your hand though your journey, just reach out for us.
Hugs,
Lorrie0 -
sorry to hear..but happy
sorry to hear..but happy you found this board...I was day late and $ short...I dint' look until about 2 yrs post diagnosis...
I'll check back for updates
Denise0 -
Welcome to the group. I'm
Welcome to the group. I'm sorry you had to find us, but I'm glad you did. The PINKS are an awesome group for knowledge and support. And they're here 24/7, with NO question left unanswered.
My daughter was 7 when I was dx 3/10. I knew for a week before I told her. I waited until after my first meeting with the surgeon so I could answer all Erin's questions. I also called the school nurse to give her a heads-up before I told my daughter, and she connected me with the school counselor (who was a 10-yr survivor, by the way). After I told my daughter, I told everyone else. I didn't want to risk her hearing it from someone else.
Best wishes to you! Let us know how you're doing!
Julie0 -
I am not sure how to post a
I am not sure how to post a response to all the post on my post.. Thanks so much for the support so far.. a little more information about my girls.. My 2 (20 & 15) live with us & my 2 stepdaughters (25 & 21) are out of state. I believe that I am going to have to let my girls know what is going on because my husband will be staying home tomorrow to take me to my biopsy so they will know something is up & I dont want them to be blindsided by this. I believe I will not go down the "cancer" road totally just let them know that something was found that wasnt right & let them lead the way to any questions they have & answer those the best I can.. Again Thanks for the support & information.. I WILL keep you updated on me.. My results should be in in 3 -5 days.0 -
Glad you found this site.
The men and women in this group are amazing. You are getting a lot done quickly which is good, even though it may seem like so much so fast, but it is seriously better than waiting.
Mine was really fast also, from the mammogram/ultrasound (radiologist told me then it was cancer) to the Mastectomy, was less than two weeks, so it was a lot of info quickly, but not a lot of down time which was good for me.
As far as telling people, that is up to you. I told close family and a few friends, but waited until I was ready for the onslaught of well wishers before I let the info out to others. It was so much easier answering questions when I knew the answers.
Be prepared though. I got calls from people who I wasn't particularly close to who had lots of questions and no filters! I learned quickly to say 'I am not comfortable discussing this', and would end the conversations. I still am doing that with some.
Hopefully, you will not need any of this and it will come back benign!
Prayers and best wishes.
Carol0 -
Welcomecamul said:Glad you found this site.
The men and women in this group are amazing. You are getting a lot done quickly which is good, even though it may seem like so much so fast, but it is seriously better than waiting.
Mine was really fast also, from the mammogram/ultrasound (radiologist told me then it was cancer) to the Mastectomy, was less than two weeks, so it was a lot of info quickly, but not a lot of down time which was good for me.
As far as telling people, that is up to you. I told close family and a few friends, but waited until I was ready for the onslaught of well wishers before I let the info out to others. It was so much easier answering questions when I knew the answers.
Be prepared though. I got calls from people who I wasn't particularly close to who had lots of questions and no filters! I learned quickly to say 'I am not comfortable discussing this', and would end the conversations. I still am doing that with some.
Hopefully, you will not need any of this and it will come back benign!
Prayers and best wishes.
Carol
Welcome, Geannine, and good luck with your tests. You have certainly come to the right
place. I didn't tell anyone until my docs had set me on a course of treatment. I had to tell my work because I needed time off for treatment. But I put off telling acquaintances, neighbors, etc. as long as possible. I hated telling my elderly parents & my son (deployed in Iraq), but I knew they would find out sooner or later.
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Welcomecamul said:Glad you found this site.
The men and women in this group are amazing. You are getting a lot done quickly which is good, even though it may seem like so much so fast, but it is seriously better than waiting.
Mine was really fast also, from the mammogram/ultrasound (radiologist told me then it was cancer) to the Mastectomy, was less than two weeks, so it was a lot of info quickly, but not a lot of down time which was good for me.
As far as telling people, that is up to you. I told close family and a few friends, but waited until I was ready for the onslaught of well wishers before I let the info out to others. It was so much easier answering questions when I knew the answers.
Be prepared though. I got calls from people who I wasn't particularly close to who had lots of questions and no filters! I learned quickly to say 'I am not comfortable discussing this', and would end the conversations. I still am doing that with some.
Hopefully, you will not need any of this and it will come back benign!
Prayers and best wishes.
Carol
Welcome, Geannine, and good luck with your tests. You have certainly come to the right
place. I didn't tell anyone until my docs had sent me on a course of treatment. I had to tell my work because I needed time off for treatment. But I put off telling acquaintances, neighbors, etc. as long as possible. I hated telling my elderly parents & my son (deployed in Iraq), but I knew they would find out sooner or later.
I agree with the above poster who said that "friends" just came out of the woodwork --usually with a story of some relative of theirs who had bc. Really, they could have cared less
about me, and they were just being "nosy." I would just shift to another topic.
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New News
Everyone here has pretty much covered it. This is place to be!
I would like to add that THIS, the initial shock and terror of waiting for details and confirmation were the worst part of the whole journey for me.
Once you know, whatever it is to be, you will probably enter a different mind-set ready to deal with your options and the terror will hopefully ease as you focus on the next step.
Hoping for the best for you.0 -
i'm 27 years old and had breast cancergeanninem said:I am not sure how to post a
I am not sure how to post a response to all the post on my post.. Thanks so much for the support so far.. a little more information about my girls.. My 2 (20 & 15) live with us & my 2 stepdaughters (25 & 21) are out of state. I believe that I am going to have to let my girls know what is going on because my husband will be staying home tomorrow to take me to my biopsy so they will know something is up & I dont want them to be blindsided by this. I believe I will not go down the "cancer" road totally just let them know that something was found that wasnt right & let them lead the way to any questions they have & answer those the best I can.. Again Thanks for the support & information.. I WILL keep you updated on me.. My results should be in in 3 -5 days.
Hi, I'm 28 years old now, and I was diagnozed with breast cancer a year ago. Everything is still vivid in my mind. I was also six months pregnant and just married when I found all these out! I couldn't sleep at first, then I prayed to God and he calmed me to sleep. The worst thought I had was will I be able to see my child born. I was fortunate for all the wonderful people and support I had from my doctor, nurse, husband and parents. Yes, I was the same very scared, but I talked with my doctor and nurse to find out all the positive possibilities out there, but I didn't know how to react to all the other people in the world. I guess the hardest part was waiting for all the results. My breast cancer was at the very beginging stage, so I was recovered from it after having lumpectumy,chemo and radiation. I just want you to know that I was among many women that had breast cancer, and I have gone through it all, it wasn't the worst,the worst is the people at places that can't get medical help or any support. It's always good to have the breast screened early. Early screening saves life. At this stage, don't worry too much, I hope and I will pray for you that your result will come out negative.0 -
Welcometufi000 said:New News
Everyone here has pretty much covered it. This is place to be!
I would like to add that THIS, the initial shock and terror of waiting for details and confirmation were the worst part of the whole journey for me.
Once you know, whatever it is to be, you will probably enter a different mind-set ready to deal with your options and the terror will hopefully ease as you focus on the next step.
Hoping for the best for you.
Welcome.You will learn alot and find this is a great place to find any info on Breast Cancer.We've all been through it. Some come on here for family and friends to help them through this dreaded disease.
You have every reason to be scared.Good you have a doctor getting right to the situation and not wasting any time.I had a inverted nipple on my right side.I had benign breast tumors since 20 on the left side and dx with cancer in 2009 at the age of 62(left breast).Well my mammo with the inverted nipple made me panic years ago but found it was not cancer .It is still the left side that is and has given me the problem.I remember going to a new doctor this year.First thing he saw and mentioned was my inverted nipple(right side) and wondered if I knew it.I did and it has been inverted for years.I've even had some discharge from both breasts and nothing.
Hope all works out for you and there is no cancer found.The best to you.Keep us informed.
Lynn Smith0 -
A big welcome from us all. I
A big welcome from us all. I wish it wasn't under this circumstance.
Yes, I totally know what you mean. I took the day off, had a list of things I needed to do after my quick, routine mammo...3 hours later, I was at a surgeons's office getting a cone biopsy...another 3 hours later and I was getting a scan. Talk about feeling like I was a walking zombie in a horror flick!
My older son knew right away, however I didn't tell my younger daughter (15) until a few days later. I had to prepare myself for her reation. Kids are stronger than you think.
It is a whirlwind of tests not to mention emotions! Hang in there. God is my strength through everthing. I'm praying for you.
Hugs,
Sylvia0 -
Tell
Sorry you have the need to be here. I kept the information from the out of area kids until I knew for sure I had cancer. One of my in the area children also was not told right away as I knew she could not take the wait. Once we knew the news then I told the grandchildren right away. We are a pretty open family so there was no reason for delay once we had the results.0 -
Biopsy Done
Thanks so much for everyones support & advise. I have told both of my daughters that live with us. We will let my Stepdaughters know what is going on this weekend. My biopsy went ok & I have an appointment for next Thursday for my results. We will have a wonderful weekend & keep busy next week till we have answers then We will do what is needed..
Again Thanks for making me feel welcomed!
Geannine0 -
Welcomegeanninem said:Biopsy Done
Thanks so much for everyones support & advise. I have told both of my daughters that live with us. We will let my Stepdaughters know what is going on this weekend. My biopsy went ok & I have an appointment for next Thursday for my results. We will have a wonderful weekend & keep busy next week till we have answers then We will do what is needed..
Again Thanks for making me feel welcomed!
Geannine
Im so sorry that you have had to find this site, but you've come to an amazing place. I'm praying for negative biopsy results. How are you feeling today? I remember after my biopsies I was in so much pain. I hope your not and I hope you can relax. Please let us know when you get the results.
Hugs and God Bless,
Dawne0 -
Adding my prayers and cybertufi000 said:New News
Everyone here has pretty much covered it. This is place to be!
I would like to add that THIS, the initial shock and terror of waiting for details and confirmation were the worst part of the whole journey for me.
Once you know, whatever it is to be, you will probably enter a different mind-set ready to deal with your options and the terror will hopefully ease as you focus on the next step.
Hoping for the best for you.
Adding my prayers and cyber hugs for you!0 -
Biopsygeanninem said:Biopsy Done
Thanks so much for everyones support & advise. I have told both of my daughters that live with us. We will let my Stepdaughters know what is going on this weekend. My biopsy went ok & I have an appointment for next Thursday for my results. We will have a wonderful weekend & keep busy next week till we have answers then We will do what is needed..
Again Thanks for making me feel welcomed!
Geannine
Sorry to read your info. I am very new here and all the advice given you is great. I wish I had had the knowledge and a computer 14 yrs. ago. Prayers are on your shoulder. God Bless0 -
I will be praying for goodgeanninem said:Biopsy Done
Thanks so much for everyones support & advise. I have told both of my daughters that live with us. We will let my Stepdaughters know what is going on this weekend. My biopsy went ok & I have an appointment for next Thursday for my results. We will have a wonderful weekend & keep busy next week till we have answers then We will do what is needed..
Again Thanks for making me feel welcomed!
Geannine
I will be praying for good results for you Geannine.
Hugs, Lex0
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