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So hurt and disappointed

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Joined: May 2011

I was in the hospital for 12days after high dose chemo and a stem cell transplant. My brother and sister did not even visit me. I thought they cared about me. I visited each of them when they had much shorter hospital stays for much more benign conditions. It just made me realize how unimportant I am to them.... I just feel so hurt.

When I told them that I felt disappointed, they each expressed anger (think this is b/c they felt guilty?) and now we don't talk. I never expected to be treated this way by them. Neither one of them even called me during my 3month recovery after my hospital stay. My sister called me after 3mos and asked me if I was feeling better now and invited me to a family gathering. I told her that I would not attend and that I felt it was terrible that she and my brother could not be there for me during by far the most difficult time in my life.

I'm done with them. I feel sad about this, but I wouldn't treat my dog the way they treated me. I'm going to create a family of friends for myself and my family, now that I'm feeling more energy and can get out more often

I do feel so lonely sometimes b/c for so long I felt so terrible, that I don't have many friends left. I look forward to continued health and stamina so that I can get out there and be social again.

This experience has just been so painful for me.

Posts: 9
Joined: Nov 2012

You sound like you are the right path for recovery on both sides. You just need to get out there and enjoy your life even if your family does not treat you as you want.

I have a daughter who has never even asked why I got sick and retired from work to heal from Myelona. I just live with it and hope that one day she will turn around, but I am not going to stop living my life. I have friends that I do things with, especially when I am down.

Keep up and stay positive.

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Joined: May 2011

Thank you for inspiring me to get on with my life. I will keep living and stay strong; up and positive.  Thanks again. 

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