You may remember I posted a while ago about my mom having breathing problems. She received some unfortunate news that she has nodules in both her lungs. They are going to do a needle biopsy next week to find out for sure if it's from the kidney cancer or if by chance it's from her appendix she had taken out last year that had possible cancer that she was not made aware of until now. It's been a long haul and I'm feeling overwhelmed right now. My mom is only 67 and to me that's too young for her to have to deal with what lies ahead. To make matters worse she is alone and I only have one sister that lives 2 hours away. I don't mind taking care of mom and I want to make sure she gets the best possible care she can but my mom worries about me worrying about her and sometimes she holds back things or glosses over things. For instance - the doctor called and told her she has to have some type of ablation on her remaining kidney. She said "oh, by the way they said after I have my biopsy they will need to do an ablation". That's all she said about it and I have a zillion questions for her but know she doesn't really want to talk about it right now. One of my first questions is how soon will they do the ablation after the biopsy? We meet with the oncologist 10 days after she has her biopsy and we already know she will be put on a pill. I know it will be a chemo pill but I'm not sure she does. My aunt went with her to the doctors appointment last week so I wasn't there when this was discussed but my aunt didn't even realize it was probably a chemo pill when they finished talking to the doctor and she's someone that doesn't miss many details.
I'm trying to respect my mom's right to privacy and not bring things up until she is ready so I guess that's why I'm writing this here. When my mom's kidney was removed the doctor told us it was a very, very aggressive cancer and he repeated it to my mom and aunt at their meeting with him the other day.
I am fortunate to have 2 aunts that are willing to help however they can. They already lost a brother to cancer and want to do all they can to help my mom. The doctor did tell my mom this isn't something they can operate on and that it's not curable but that medicine can help extend her life with quality of life too.
Can anyone tell me how they do the ablation? Will it be done laproscopic? I just am looking for a few answers right now.
To add to the confusion we are supposed to be taking a family trip with my mom, sister, my children, my husband and me in 3 weeks. If my mom can't go I'm considering cancelling the trip but I know she won't stand for that. I'm also thinking if we can work it out that we should all still go and have one big celebration with her before the chaos begins.
Thanks for taking time to read this.