Mar 30, 2012 - 12:41 am
My father had partial re-section on 2/20 - after some minor complications came home and is recovering. He is 82 years old and was in very good health prior to surgery and living on his own. My sister and I both live far away - i am a plane ride away and she is 2 1/2 hours drive. He is not having a ton of symptoms but the following are most troublesome
1). He really cant stand to eat - nothing tastes good, he is full after 3 bites and has no hunger whatsoever. He was 155 lbs before surgery and now down to 135. He is not on a feeding tube as he has had several surgeries for vascular issues and doctor said it would have been too challenging to insert the feeding tube given scar tissue.
After reading several of the messages here - i would say we should be happy with his progress. However, my main concern is if he should really be living on his own at this point. My sister and i have been alternating 2 week shifts taking care of him. He hates to "burden" my sister and I and refuses to come live with either of us as a result.
So my question based on all of your experience - do you think he needs a care taker or should we be forcing him to consider moving in with us or seeking alternative care - or do you think he can manage recovery being independent?