had surgeon appt today

My husband had his appointment with the urologic oncologist today. He has a baseball size tumor on his left kidney. The lymph nodes in the area are enlarged which doc said may or may not mean mets. The doctor will do scans of lungs, liver and blood test for bone to see if there are any additional lesions. If there are lesions then we will discuss chemo, if not they will proceed with the radical nephrectomy. He will attempt laprascopic but due to his obesity may have to perform an open.

Do any of you knowledgable people have any words of wisdom or advice for us? Thanks so much!