Feb 07, 2012 - 10:30 pm
My husband has Stage 3 Melanoma (was diagnosed in Feb last year) since then he has went through 2 surgeries, 6 weeks of radiaion, and is going through a year of interferon-alpha.
Technically he is cancer free, but yet we still have a long road ahead of us with the cancer being caught at a later stage. (hopefully not, but you have to be prepared that it could come back)
So...the interferon-alpha (chemo) is just a preventive measure, to help reduce the risk of cancer coming back. First 4 weeks of it he received the chemo through an IV every day, now he receives a shot 3 times a week. His side effects are flu like symptoms... he has days that are good, and days that are bad. He has to go through this for over a year to increase surivial rates by 5%.
He's been a smoker for a long time; however, he isn't consistent about how much he smokes. It would normally be maybe 1-2 packs a week if that. There are times he goes without for weeks; however, over the last 2 months he has been increasing and is now close to 1-2 packs a day.
It is so hard for me as a caregiver because I'm having to be the financial provider as well as all the other roles we caregivers play. I just cannot understand how someone would put themselves through a year of chemo to help prevent cancer, but wont quit smoking.
He has been told by doctors he needs to quit...but nothing comes from it. The more I say something to him, the more he smokes. Every time he goes outside to smoke, I just feel like I'm watching him kill himself. I just want to tell him, if oyu want to smoke fine, but stop chemo and start working full time so you can pay for them. I see no point in continuning in preventive care, when he continues to smoke.
It just makes me so angry, and hurt. I've lost 3 grandparents to Lung Cancer...It's just too much.
He could have prevented the Melanoma. He could have caught it early (I told him for 2 years to go to the doctor) but he didn't. I get angry because he chose where he is right now...and he just refuses to take actions to prevent Lung Cancer.
I'm just lost and don't know what to say/do anymore....
Why is change so hard on everyone?