Jan 05, 2012 - 4:54 pm
My husband was diagnosed with aggressive prostate cancer day before yesterday and we are both reeling. I am sure you can all relate to the feeling of shock, disbelief and numbness that accompanies the doctors bad news. I felt so sure his biopsy was going to be a false alarm....
Doctor opened with with "I'm sorry but you have a very aggressive case of prostate cancer". I'm so confused and have been scouring the web since we've gotten home. I really don't even know what to ask but need an outlet right now because I can't stop crying. It seems that time has stood still since we've found out. I put on a very brave and positive face for my husband, but inside I'm terrified.
Here are the fact as I know them so far.Biopsy 12 locations 8 came back positive.
(Btw, he was diagnosed through a urology team, his doctor is a DO. Are those credentials adequate, he seemed very thorough and knowledgeable)
His gleason score is 9 (5+4)
at the bottom of this post, I will put in the other figures, so perhaps someone can tell me what they mean.
Today we went for a bone scan and Tuesday we will go for a cat scan. The follow up appointment with the doctor is next Friday.
The doctor said he is not a candidate for surgery and treatment will most likely be radiation and hormone therapy. After he's determined if the cancer has spread. He implied there was a good change with a gleason score of 9.
We spend half our time in Florida and half in Massachusetts and were due to go back the end of December. My husband wants to have treatment done in Florida which means we'd have to find an oncologist in our area. Does anyone have an opinion about this?
My husband is 78 years old, in very good health, strong and optimistic (I think), but he does not share his emotions or anxieties, never has.
As far as his symptoms go, he has trouble with a steady flow for the past few months and gets up at least once during the night. During the physical exam, the doctor did say he felt something (which he thought could have been calcium) on his prostate, but apparently was the cancer.
I need to support him and I'm not really sure how to do that. He is the type of man that doesn't like to be coddled or taken care of, nor does he like to be fussed over. I'm trying to become educated about this, so perhaps I feel as though I'm doing something.
Anything you can offer me would be very appreciated. Whether it be interpretation of lab report or what to do for him, I can use whatever guidance you're willing to offer.
Here are the other numbers listed under Diagnosis
Thank you very much.