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My Beloved Don is Gone

rmitchell
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Hello Friends, It is with a heavy heart that I tell you all that I buried my wonderful husband Don Yesterday. It has been a long, difficult journey the last few weeks. Watching him die a little every day was killing me. Now I know he is with the Lord and has no more pain. I hate this terrible Cancer. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers as I know the days ahead will be hard. I will try to keep up with all of you. Thanks so much for all your kind words and prayers.
Reba

sangora
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Joined: Mar 2011

Don is in a much better place now. No more suffering and pain. I know your grief is heavy, but know that your are in the hearts and prayers of all of us. Will think of you at this difficult time. Sam Stage IV

TRK411
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Joined: Jun 2011

You have my deepest sympathies during this time. Don is in a better place and free of pain. For whatever reason, I have found great solace in the poem below. Not sure who wrote it, but I like to read it when I think of my dad (who passed in July from EC)

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free;
I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took His hand when I heard Him call,
I turned my back and I left it all.
I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to work, or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way.
I found that place at the close of day.
If my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss
Ah, yes, these things I, too, will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow;
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life's been full; I savored much
Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief;
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me
God wanted me now; He set me free.

Take care,
Tom

rmitchell
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Joined: Dec 2010

Thanks Tom That poem is really a help. I know he is better off.
Reba

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TerryV
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Reba,

Our hearts are heavy with pain for your loss. Please find comfort and warmth in your memories of Don.

We are here for you, Reba.

with much love & hugs,

Terry

bingbing2009
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Joined: Feb 2011

We are so sorry to hear of Don's passing. It is especially difficult to lose a loved one at the holidays. May God give you strength and comfort in the days ahead. You will be in our thoughts and prayers.

Melinda and Vaughn

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JaneO
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Joined: Dec 2011

So sorry for your loss...our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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JReed
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Joined: Nov 2011

Reba,

We are very saddened for you and your family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Judy

Freida
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Reba
I am so sorry for your loss, but hope that knowing Don's pain is at an end will bring a small measure of comfort to you. In time I hope the happy memories of Don will replace the painful ones of this horrible disease.
Much love and hugs to you.
Freida

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birdiequeen
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Joined: Mar 2011

So sorry to hear of your loss. I think I too am going to hold onto that poem Tom shared. It says so much in such a deep, powerful way.

oriontj
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Joined: Jul 2009

This is such a difficult time but the Lord knows your pain and will wrap his arms around you. Don is with him now and has no pain or fears.

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AngieD
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Reba, you and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers all week and you will continue to be.
Angie

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ritawaite13
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Joined: Aug 2011

Oh Reba, I'm so sorry. Someone (I think Rose)just posted on this board the other day asking if anyone had heard from you.
I too am fresh into this new life. My husband lived just 15 weeks after diagnosis and passed on Oct 24, 2011. I truly feel your pain. I know you're glad Don is no longer suffering but I also know what a hole his passing has left in your life. Somehow, we manage to get through it. Just take it day by day and breathe. I hope you have a good support system of friends and family nearby to lean on.
Hugs and prayers for you,
Rita

jss2011
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Joined: Sep 2011

I am so sorry, My prayers are with you Reba.

Julie

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Mazj
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Reba, I am so very sorry to hear of Don's passing. My thoughts are with you.
Marilyn

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Donna70
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Dear Reba,
Will definitely keep you in my prayers and thoughts, so sad to see this post. You and Don have been thru a massive struggle and it will take time to heal and have the good memories of Don come back. He is at peace and it is so hard to see someone go thru these last stages. Many hugs from afar. love and peace,
Donna70

Wpturner05
Posts: 120
Joined: Aug 2011

Reba,

It seems we were in this together as I buried Kevin on the 22nd as well. I have an 8 year old and a 12 year old and it is beyond difficult to get out of the haze and care for them. I pray a restful and peaceful Christmas for you.

Whitney

rmitchell
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Joined: Dec 2010

Oh Whitney,
I am so sorry. It is hard for me but must be harder for you with young children. I will keep you in my prayers. We will make it, just will take time.
Reba

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chemosmoker
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Joined: Aug 2011

Reba,
you KNOW how much we love you sand now Don is at rests, and what a better time to go to be with the Lord than on Christmas...He will be having Christmas dinner with Jesus, God and all of our others beloved ones we have lost to this horrible EC.

I love you Reba. Miss your posts already, and Don's, too.
GO be what family and CELEBRATE Don's love, light, and life today. Don gave SO much of himself to so many, and THAT will NOT go unrewarded forever, Amen.

I love you

Eric

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MissusB
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I lost my Bill suddenly one week ago today. Eric has it so right - we must celebrate their love, light and life. Watching them suffer was the hard part and we have to take comfort in knowing that we were there to love and support them for their journey "home". Love to you, my dear. Kim

annalan
Posts: 149
Joined: Jul 2011

So very sorry for your loss. My condolence to you and your family.
Ann (2)

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rose20
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May you feel God's loving arms around you.
You're in my prayers.

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paul61
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Reba

I am so sorry to hear Don has passed. I know this past year has been a struggle for both of you. Don is now free of the pain.

May GOD gather you in his loving arms and give you peace.

With my sad condolences.,

Paul Adams
McCormick, South Carolina

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Cora11
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For you and your family, Reba. I am so sorry for your loss, yet relieved that Don has peace. I hope you find comfort in time as you cherish your partnership and love that will always be with you.
Blessings,
Cora

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sandy1943
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Reba, My thoughts and prayers are for God to give you comfort in the days ahead.
God bless you, Sandra

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unclaw2002
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Reba,

I am so sorry to hear about Don. I know you both fought long and hard against this monster. You love and devotion came through your posts and I know that this is a very difficult time for you right now. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you get through the difficult days ahead.

Lots of love and hugs,
Cindy

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Heeran
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I'm very sorry for your loss. Will keep you in my prayers.

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sghajar
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Dear Reba,

I am truly sorry to hear the sad news.
You are in our prayers, and I wish you much courage and strength through this most difficult time.

I lost my beloved dad on March 27th. He was 77 years old.
Mom and dad were married for over 55 years.
Therefore we understand and feel your pain.
But I have to tell you god will give you strength to go through this time when you least expecting it.

Tomorrow is a new year, and mom and I couldn't believe that we made it through 2011 with our grief and loss of my beloved dad, but we did, and therefore I know you will make it through as well. It takes time but you will make it through. Please don't loose hope and be strong as you are, and know there is a life afer.

Your beloved husband Don is in much better place and free of any pain now.
Please know you are not alone and you are in our daily prayers.

Sending you much love and hugs,
Shideh Ghajar

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Daisylin
Posts: 380
Joined: May 2011

Reba, please accept my most heartfelt condolences on the loss of Don. This is such a sad, overwhelming and terrible time, and I feel your pain.
Don is finished his suffering, and now it's time for you to grieve, heal and move forward, one day at a time. Please take care of yourself, and remember that we are all here for you.
Chantal

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cher76
Posts: 302
Joined: Nov 2010

Reba, I am so sorry to hear of Don's passing. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and you face this most difficult time.
Cheryl
wife of Rickie dx stage IV EC, Oct. 2010
Mets to bones and brain

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