Dec 07, 2011 - 8:53 am
I hope I am posting in the right category. I just found out last evening that my father, age 61, has been diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer which has metastesized to his liver and lungs. They are doing a brain scan today to see if it has reached that far.
I don't know what to do. My parents live in the Orlando area and I am in Ft. Lauderdale (3 hours away). Despite the short distance between us, I have never been close to my parents other than the occassional phone call on the holidays.
Both my mother and father has expressed they don't want to see anyone right know. My father, a lot like myself, doesn't want anyone see him in his current state of mind. And my mother has the mindset that she needs to do this her way.
I have told them both they don't need to do this alone and I am here for them. Is this common. Should I respect their wishes and keep my distance until they ask for help and just continue to let them both know I am here for them or should I immediately get in my car and go anyways.