Nov 19, 2011 - 6:21 pm
My boyfriend was diagnosed with testicular cancer in July 2011. Since then he has had two surgeries and started chemo a week ago. In the beginning we had a rush of support from friends and family, people asking how they could help. I was fine for a while. I am a full time grad student, work full time, and take care of my boyfriend. It seems that the support is gone now because people seem to have tired of the story or just forgot they offered to help. I am finding that I really need to deal with emotions that I never had time to address and the friends that said they would do whatever we needed to help are no where to be found. I'm feeling sad, scared, overwhelmed and no one answers their phone. I know as a caregiver I am supposed to take care of myself. I am trying to do that but the only person who has the time to listen is my boyfriend who has enough to worry about already. My job is being weird about taking time off because he is "only a boyfriend" and while professors say they are willing to help, when it comes down to it they really don't mean it. I'm feeling alone. I don't have time for a physical support group right now and with no friends available to listen I thought this might be a good way to get support.