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mrsptsu2012
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For those of you who know my story, I just wanted to give you a few words of encouragement. Count your blessings that you are able to spend whatever time you may have free to be with your loved ones. Use it wisely and enjoy every good day that you can. I would give anything to be able to be right there with him through it all. In sickness and health til death do us part!

AlanRinHBG
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Joined: May 2011

Those are wonderful words from a fine lady in your situation. We are really blessed to be here at all but in your shoes we'll not ever understand. I know you will use this experience to help more families in the future. If not now, when? You are a brave and faithful woman not allowed to be the caregiver you want to be. Bless you.

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mrsptsu2012
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Joined: May 2011

Thanks, you are very kind. Did you read my post regarding misled? I don't know how they can sleep at night.

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Hondo
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We are all truly bless by out caregivers, I know myself with out my caregiver wife and best friend in life I could not have been here today. Blessing to all you caregivers for what you have done for us everyday and never thing about Yourselves .

Hondo

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Radioactive34
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Hugsss....I hope you get more access to your husband soon.

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mrsptsu2012
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Joined: May 2011

I want to thank everyone for your suport. I have written another plea to the Warden. This is the communication sent:

Warden Steele
Deberry Special Needs Facility
7575 Cockrill Bend Boulevard
Nashville, Tennessee 37243-0471

October 6, 2011

Dear Warden:

On yesterday I faxed a letter to you requesting a visit with my husband at the Cannon Cancer Center located at Centennial. By the end of business day, I had not received a response and learned you were not in the office for most of the day. This communication is for the purpose of a reminder I am awaiting a response to my request.

Due to my husband’s current condition, I am in fear of suffering a loss of consortium (intimacy) with my husband. There are certain things a husband and wife share during the end stages of life that is not shared with others. Such things as forgiveness for things brought into the marriage and the role you played and encouraging your spouse to make peace with themselves and their higher power. There are things that need to be said to one another to make the process a little easier. I am a very spiritual person therefore; I believe in the power of prayer and lying hands upon the person I am praying for in situations such as his. The bond we share as a bond of matrimony is not only a bond of physical and emotional, it is a spiritual bond as well. All of this is considered in the term intimacy.

I don’t know that my husband is at this stage due to the fact I am unaware of the reason for his transfer to the Cancer Center. However, if he is, I would like the opportunity to be able to discuss such things with him before he is unable to do so. Moreover, he needs to know he is not alone or abandoned. If he is in a state of confusion, I’m sure he doesn’t understand why I am not there forgetting where he is and the rules in which he has to live by.

I am in sincere hopes all of these factors as well as the previously mentioned factors are being considered upon consideration of my request. I look forward to hearing from you with a response.

If you have any questions or concerns as it relates to this communication, I can be reached at (615) 578-2819. Thank you in advance for your immediate attention to such a sensitive matter.

Regards,

Teresa C. Pendergrass

Cc: Attorney Carla Ford
Commissioner Derrick Schofield
Governor Bill Haslam

AlanRinHBG
Posts: 120
Joined: May 2011

I admit to not being a very religious man, but when I read your story, it chokes me up. It chokes me up alot. I hope you get some action for his sake and yours. You should be able to be by his side, to hold his hand and just be there. This is truly cruel. I don't get their perspective at all. I guess they enjoy being mean. truly mean. You are in my thoughts.

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