Cancer Survivors Network

I really don't know what is going on. The doctor called today asking me for a decision or if my husband has a living will. I informed him my husband has an Advance Medical Directive and he wants everything medically possible to keep him alive. He then started asking if I knew how ill he was and what is my decision as next of kin. He stated I may want to think about it that some prefer not to put their loved ones through the trauma. I reiterated my husband's wishes. I was granted another emergency visit and when I arrived, once again several things disturbed me. One, they made me wait while they got him ready for the visit. I saw the nurses taking clean linen to his room; it was obvious they were preparing his bed for the visit. When arriving in his room, it smelled of bowel. I wondered how long he may have been lying in his own feces or how much longer he would have if I hadn't been coming. Two, he was more alert today than he has been since he got really sick and expressed to me how he doesn't like the way they manhandle him. He said they tug and pull on him when they clean him up and it hurts. Three, he asked for a new oxygen tubing because he has been coughing a lot and feels like it is dirty. When I went to push the nurses button for assistance, the button was still turned off from the day before when I was there. Four, the nurse said he didn't need a new tube and refused to give him one. Five, the empty bag of antibiotic for the fungus infection on his brain, was still hanging on the IV pole from the day before with the date 9/9. I was told he would be receiving these antibiotics daily. Why would a bag from 9/9 still be hanging on the pole? Six, I informed the nurse I had his Advanced Medial Directive with me if she wanted to make a copy. she replied by saying she couldn't touch that paperwork; I would have to give it to the doctor. Additionally, she stated it was inaccurate. When I asked why it was inaccurate. I was told because he marked he wanted everything. I replied by saying "he does". As I was leaving, I asked the nurse to clarify why she thought it was inaccurate. She answered by telling me they were under the impression he was a DNR. I then asked what gave them that impression and she told me because he was terminal. This disturbed me because they have his Advance Medical Directive therefore; because he's terminal they thought it was a mistake. Are they purpousley trying to speed his death up? I can't help but to wonder if that's what's going on because he is an inmate as if his life doesn't matter. He is only two years away from coming home. He has served most of his time.