Sep 03, 2011 - 2:41 pm
Since March 2011 I have been posting in the Lung Cancer Board about my husband Mark who was diagnosed on 3/3/11 with NSCLC with mets all along his aorta (and probably other places according to the PET scan). Prognosis is 9 months without chemo. He doesn't want to do chemo. As I have been typing my story's/issues/concerns/problems/life as a caregiver I probably should of copied and pasted it on this discussion board as I am his caregiver. Please see my previous posts in the lung cancer board.
I have been reading all the caregivers postings and replies and have shed a few tears. My condolences to all caregivers that have lost a loved one and I am sorry for all the caregivers that are going through this as I am one of them. But we must stay strong for our counterparts/partners/friends/spouses/family. I have learned that you can't please everyone but at least try to the best of your ability to please the one you care for no matter how difficult it can get. Cancer is probably more difficult on the caregiver than it is the patient. You go through the same emotions but in a ten fold aspect. Plus now the caregiver has the everyday routine "chores around the house" that the patient once did. It is like having another full time job.
As a caregiver I am reaching out to all during the good times/news of the patients health and the bad times where venting is recommended and a great stress reliever. I have tried to do this with my friends (who are not caregivers at the present) but I feel as if they either "don't want to hear it" or just don't understand what I am going through. I know this board does and does. I appreciate all that will let me vent and I will do the same for you..listen with a caring ear.
Thanks for listening!