Im a first time gma!!!!

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jo jo
jo jo Member Posts: 1,175
So everyone understands this is a bitter sweet situation. I have a family member...lets call her bitchzilla. She put a wedge between me and my daughter years ago. Not only did she put this wedge between us but also her own sisters and brother. (i have 4 kids...3 girls and 1 boy). Then bitchzilla did it with my whole side of this family...so my daughters hatred grew over the years. She wont even live in the same town as our family.

Now up to the present day now that you know a little history. My daughter was having a baby and nobody was supose to know about it especally me...why i dont know!
Recently i was surfin facebook and on that side of the family i seen a pic of this baby and nobody stated whos baby it was...now remember i had no idea she was even pregnant... yet when i seen that pic i knew it was my daughters baby...it looked just like her. I broke down crying...everyone said i was freakin out for nothing cuz we dont even know if its hers or not...call it mothers intution or whatever...i knew! Later it was found to be hers. Yet it really hurt that Bitchzilla was later claiming the role of grandma, rubbing it in my face that i will never have that role!
This whole thing started a verbal war between our family until i stepped in and put a stop to it. I simply said if thats what my daughter wants then let her have it...its her life and this should be a happy occation for her not family drama. I hope i did the right thing in letting it go. Yet this was the topper that started my melt down.
Me and my other 3 kids are very close and none of them understand it and are upset about it as well.
Well now with all that said, since i cant publicaly shout out that im a first time grandma...lets rephrase that "nana"...im too young for grandma...lol. I can do it here and have my sisters celebrate with me.
Her name is Laney and she was born July 19th! I posted a pic of her...i did a snatch and grab off facebook as soon as i seen it...luckly i did cuz it was gone soon after. This is all the info i have on her. I just hope to met her someday.
WOOOO HOOOO IM A FIRST TIME NANA!!!!

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  • aysemari
    aysemari Member Posts: 1,596 Member
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    Congrats JOJo
    She really looks adorable!!

    Ayse
  • smalldoggroomer
    smalldoggroomer Member Posts: 1,184
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    Congratulations NANA, What a
    Congratulations NANA, What a beautiful baby just like her Nana. Happy dance happy dance!!
  • grams2jc
    grams2jc Member Posts: 756
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    What a sweetie!
    Glad you got to snatch and grab that photo! I agree, you're too young to be gma, so nana it is. I am Grams but he doesn't call me that, he's 20 months old, whatever comes out of his mouth works for me. I pray you get that chance someday, and admire your ability to let it go for now. What goes around comes around and Karma is a b****, it will all work out and I hope in your favor.

    Congrats!

    Jennifer
  • skipper54
    skipper54 Member Posts: 936 Member
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    grams2jc said:

    What a sweetie!
    Glad you got to snatch and grab that photo! I agree, you're too young to be gma, so nana it is. I am Grams but he doesn't call me that, he's 20 months old, whatever comes out of his mouth works for me. I pray you get that chance someday, and admire your ability to let it go for now. What goes around comes around and Karma is a b****, it will all work out and I hope in your favor.

    Congrats!

    Jennifer

    COngratulations!
    Glad you were able to "grab" the pic and post it. At least you have that much. Will pray that wounds heal and that you get to meet this precious addition to the family!
  • Lighthouse_7
    Lighthouse_7 Member Posts: 1,566 Member
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    skipper54 said:

    COngratulations!
    Glad you were able to "grab" the pic and post it. At least you have that much. Will pray that wounds heal and that you get to meet this precious addition to the family!

    Congratulations Nana and
    Congratulations Nana and guess what? She was born on my birthday!
    I hope everything works out that you can see her.
    Hugs,
    Wanda
  • missrenee
    missrenee Member Posts: 2,136 Member
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    Congratulations Nana and
    Congratulations Nana and guess what? She was born on my birthday!
    I hope everything works out that you can see her.
    Hugs,
    Wanda

    Congratulations, JoJo
    We will certainly all celebrate her birth here with you. I sincerely hope and pray you get to be a part of her life at some point (also your daughter's). I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. Keep the faith and try to believe in your heart that they will be in your life some day.

    Hugs, Renee
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
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    missrenee said:

    Congratulations, JoJo
    We will certainly all celebrate her birth here with you. I sincerely hope and pray you get to be a part of her life at some point (also your daughter's). I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. Keep the faith and try to believe in your heart that they will be in your life some day.

    Hugs, Renee

    Nana .. Congratulations!
    Yes, you are a first time grandma, regardless of circumstance. Time heals all wounds, and in time I hope and prayer you will have the opportunity to have a 1 on 1 relationship with both your daughter, and granddaughter - Laney.

    Don't give up .. continue to hope and prayer for a quick solution of this unfortunate feud.

    Gentle Hugs,

    Vicki Sam
  • debi.18
    debi.18 Member Posts: 850 Member
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    VickiSam said:

    Nana .. Congratulations!
    Yes, you are a first time grandma, regardless of circumstance. Time heals all wounds, and in time I hope and prayer you will have the opportunity to have a 1 on 1 relationship with both your daughter, and granddaughter - Laney.

    Don't give up .. continue to hope and prayer for a quick solution of this unfortunate feud.

    Gentle Hugs,

    Vicki Sam

    Congrats Nana!!
    Congrats Nana!! Laney is beautiful, thanks for sharing her with us. I think you did the right thing by putting a stop to the drama. I’m sure your daughter will come around and appreciate it and you’ll be able to meet your beautiful granddaughter. I agree – don’t give up hope!!

    Hugs,
    Debi
  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
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    so sorry...family issues can
    so sorry...family issues can be so stressful....

    congrats
  • mwallace1325
    mwallace1325 Member Posts: 806
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    Congrats Nana
    Congrats. What a bittersweet event for you. I'm so glad you got to see the picture of the baby. Every family has issues and I'm praying that your daughter will see not only what she's doing to you, but the loss to her own daughter by keeping her from you.

    I've got my own family drama going on, so I feel your pain.

    Congrats and thanks for sharing this with us.

    marge

    ps just checked out the picture. she's beautiful.
  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member
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    Congrats Nana
    Congrats. What a bittersweet event for you. I'm so glad you got to see the picture of the baby. Every family has issues and I'm praying that your daughter will see not only what she's doing to you, but the loss to her own daughter by keeping her from you.

    I've got my own family drama going on, so I feel your pain.

    Congrats and thanks for sharing this with us.

    marge

    ps just checked out the picture. she's beautiful.

    I admire you for taking the
    I admire you for taking the high road. perhaps in time she will see things from a different perspective particularly now that she is a mom. I know its hurts but you did the right thing. I do believe karma is a b@tch. We love you JoJo.
  • camul
    camul Member Posts: 2,537
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    JoJo, beautiful baby, proud
    JoJo, beautiful baby, proud Nana! Glad to see you back! And happy as h*ll that you are coming back sassy and healthy!

    ~Carol
  • sea60
    sea60 Member Posts: 2,613
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    Love the name
    ...she's precious!! Congrats JoJo, I'm so happy for you.

    Hugs,

    Sylvia
  • rjjj
    rjjj Member Posts: 1,822 Member
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    sea60 said:

    Love the name
    ...she's precious!! Congrats JoJo, I'm so happy for you.

    Hugs,

    Sylvia

    Congrats :-)
    I will pray for you that this situation can be resolved...i was just livid reading what a horrible thing #######zilla has done! i would hate to be in her shoes when the Karma comes around to bite her in the butt!
    on a happier note the picture of your sweet gran baby is so beautiful. You must be bursting with pride. big hugs to you <3

    jackie
  • jamiegww
    jamiegww Member Posts: 384
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    Congrats Nana JoJo!
    I'm so glad you got to see a picture before it was taken down. I too have a granddaughter but never got to see a picture because she was born while my son was in prison and he only told me about her to hurt me and let me know that I would never know my granddaughter. I hope you get to meet your granddaughter someday soon but if not, I know you will always cherish that picture.

    HUGS!!!
    Jamie
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
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    jamiegww said:

    Congrats Nana JoJo!
    I'm so glad you got to see a picture before it was taken down. I too have a granddaughter but never got to see a picture because she was born while my son was in prison and he only told me about her to hurt me and let me know that I would never know my granddaughter. I hope you get to meet your granddaughter someday soon but if not, I know you will always cherish that picture.

    HUGS!!!
    Jamie

    Very bitterweet but congrats
    Very bitterweet but congrats nana. Who knows what will occur with time. I will keep a good thought that as your daughter experiences motherhood she will come to realize that you are her mom and this is your grandkid. Meanwhile, I admire you for taking the right approach and making this time about her and the baby. My hat is off to you.
    Stef
  • jnl
    jnl Member Posts: 3,869 Member
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    aysemari said:

    Congrats JOJo
    She really looks adorable!!

    Ayse

    Congrats on the grandbaby!

    Congrats on the grandbaby!
  • Ritzy
    Ritzy Member Posts: 4,381 Member
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    carkris said:

    I admire you for taking the
    I admire you for taking the high road. perhaps in time she will see things from a different perspective particularly now that she is a mom. I know its hurts but you did the right thing. I do believe karma is a b@tch. We love you JoJo.

    Big congrats to you on the
    Big congrats to you on the birth of your beautiful grandchild!


    Sue :)
  • Annette 11
    Annette 11 Member Posts: 380
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    So precious! Congratulations
    So precious! Congratulations JoJo.
    Hugs,
    Annette
  • cahjah75
    cahjah75 Member Posts: 2,631
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    JoJo
    Congrats on being a first time "nana". I think the circumstances are awful but it doesn't take away from the biological facts.
    {{hugs from another "grandma"}} Char