Jul 09, 2011 - 2:15 pm
My partner has been diagnosed with breast cancer--her third bout--and is going to start chemo on Tuesday. She's pretty scared; me, too.
The thing is that I have just gotten hired for a new full-time position (didn't think I could possibly find a job in this economy and at my age), and they've got a 90 day probation period. There are supposedly no days off until after the 90 days have passed. My partner and I've been together for 20 years, and we've gone through a lot in that time--her 2nd bout of cancer and my long-term chronic Lyme disease. We have a strong network of family and friends, really good friends...but my heart is breaking that I won't be able to actually be there.
Certainly, she understands my having to work--we couldn't stay afloat if I didnt, esp since we don't know how the chemo and surgery will affect her work--but still, I feel terrible that I won't be physically present. I'd like to know if someone has any ideas of how I can be present in some way (other than prayer) while she's going through this.
I've thought about getting her cards--funny and supportive--that she can have; Maybe a physical token of some sort? Of course I'll make sure there are meals ready for that night before I leave the house.
She's an extraordinary woman--being with her has been the biggest gift of my life. But now, at this time she really needs me, I'm not able to be there for her.
Thanks for any thoughts, ideas, comments, inspiration, experience...