Plh4gail are you ok

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ron50
ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
Has anybody heard from Gail.I can't recall seeing her in a post for a little while. Hope you are ok.Ron.

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  • pete43lost_at_sea
    pete43lost_at_sea Member Posts: 3,900 Member
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    i was thinking the same thing
    are you ok gail.
    ron you are a good man.

    hugs,
    pete
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
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    i was thinking the same thing
    are you ok gail.
    ron you are a good man.

    hugs,
    pete

    We've texted back and forth
    We've texted back and forth a couple times. She is fine. Her son is in town.
  • pete43lost_at_sea
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    Nana b said:

    We've texted back and forth
    We've texted back and forth a couple times. She is fine. Her son is in town.

    thanks raquel, thats good to know.
    hugs,
    pete
  • ron50
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    Nana b said:

    We've texted back and forth
    We've texted back and forth a couple times. She is fine. Her son is in town.

    Thanks Raquel
    That is a relief xxx Ron.
  • plh4gail
    plh4gail Member Posts: 1,238 Member
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    Aww..thank you so much for
    Aww..thank you so much for thinking of me! That makes me feel soo good! Thanks Raquel for letting them know I'm ok, thing have just been a little hard adjusting back to the real world. I will tell a little about the past month and a half.

    I finished chemo on May 16 and my onc wanted to release me back to work 3 weeks later on June 6. I told him I wasn't ready to go back, the chemo made me feel funny and not think right and I needed more time. Remember I'm RN and have direct patient care, I didn't want to hurt anyone. So he gave me till June 28. During this time I was in contact with HR about coming back and to what position, as my ER position had been given away :((....I was led to believe I would be in a temporary 8 hour day position for a month then go into a 12 hour shift. I was released to go back June 8 and I was so ready mentally and pretty much physically. Well 3 days before I was to start I was told there was not a position for me to go to at 8 hours and that I needed to be very pro-active about my job. I took this as get your a** back to 12's so you can work. That day (a FRiday) I went back to CT and left a message for my onc to release me to 12 hour shifts with no restrictions, that I felt completely fine. First thing Monday I picked up my new work note and headed back to HR and was told there were still no shifts for those hours. I was in tears!! My personal leave was expiring in 3 days, I had no job, and my disability had ended the Friday before. I was lost, sad, speachless......well the girl in HR told me what I really needed to do was to have onc keep me off work for the month of July, and the hospital would extend my leave for the month, and to watch for openings.....OMG after I just told him I felt great and ready to work I had to find the nerve and get the guts to go right back over there and ask for the opposite. I talked to the onc Nurse (bless her heart, she's so wonderful) and she said he NEVER does this, he will say no, he wants people to get back to work. And she said she would ask him as she knew him best. Well.....later that evening she called me and told me he ok'd it!!!..unbelievable...so HR extended my leave to have a month to find a position there. And all I want is to go back to work! Now I'm trying to get my disability going again till it runs out sometime in July, but anything helps. Meanwhile...the last few days I have been updating my resume and applying at every job I can think of.

    Sorry if that was dragging on but thats mostly what I've been dealing with. Thinking everything was taken care of (as I was led to believe), having it pulled out from under me and my source of money too, then having to piece things back together and have people tell me just wait and breathe and relax, it will all work out and be ok. UGGHHH.....so much stress. and I am not just waiting for something to happen, I am trying to find work as I wait to hear from the hospital.
  • plh4gail
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    Oh shoot...how am I feeling
    Oh shoot...how am I feeling post chemo?....Every few days it seemed my brain was clearing and waking up. I began to feel like I had been asleep for months and now I was becoming energetic and alive. ....The neuropathy in my feel was soo bad at first! If I bent my neck to look down there was a jolt of tingles shooting out my feet. I had to take sleeping meds at night because the lightest feel of sheets on my feet kept me tossing and turning. And so much more. ....well I went to the internet and typed in chemo neuropathy vitamins and supplements and found all I could and went out and bought them ALL! Those, my prescription of Lyrica, and I guess some time ....I can tell an improvement! not gone but a little bit better. Just a little bit makes me happy and hopeful.

    Ok...I better go for now...time to get on with the day and things. Thank you so much for asking about me and I will try to get back sooner. I do keep in touch with Raquel and a few others with text and facebook also. But I will always come here to share and help others. I love my csn family so very much!!

    plh, Gail
  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 Member Posts: 2,342 Member
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    Gail
    Gail,
    It's so good to hear from you. What a bummer that your job situation has gone the way it has. I somehow think you are going to end up in a better place. I hate that you are under more stress right now. I hope it all goes smoothly.

    Take care.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen

    (Thanks for posting this Ron.)
  • Nana b
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    plh4gail said:

    Aww..thank you so much for
    Aww..thank you so much for thinking of me! That makes me feel soo good! Thanks Raquel for letting them know I'm ok, thing have just been a little hard adjusting back to the real world. I will tell a little about the past month and a half.

    I finished chemo on May 16 and my onc wanted to release me back to work 3 weeks later on June 6. I told him I wasn't ready to go back, the chemo made me feel funny and not think right and I needed more time. Remember I'm RN and have direct patient care, I didn't want to hurt anyone. So he gave me till June 28. During this time I was in contact with HR about coming back and to what position, as my ER position had been given away :((....I was led to believe I would be in a temporary 8 hour day position for a month then go into a 12 hour shift. I was released to go back June 8 and I was so ready mentally and pretty much physically. Well 3 days before I was to start I was told there was not a position for me to go to at 8 hours and that I needed to be very pro-active about my job. I took this as get your a** back to 12's so you can work. That day (a FRiday) I went back to CT and left a message for my onc to release me to 12 hour shifts with no restrictions, that I felt completely fine. First thing Monday I picked up my new work note and headed back to HR and was told there were still no shifts for those hours. I was in tears!! My personal leave was expiring in 3 days, I had no job, and my disability had ended the Friday before. I was lost, sad, speachless......well the girl in HR told me what I really needed to do was to have onc keep me off work for the month of July, and the hospital would extend my leave for the month, and to watch for openings.....OMG after I just told him I felt great and ready to work I had to find the nerve and get the guts to go right back over there and ask for the opposite. I talked to the onc Nurse (bless her heart, she's so wonderful) and she said he NEVER does this, he will say no, he wants people to get back to work. And she said she would ask him as she knew him best. Well.....later that evening she called me and told me he ok'd it!!!..unbelievable...so HR extended my leave to have a month to find a position there. And all I want is to go back to work! Now I'm trying to get my disability going again till it runs out sometime in July, but anything helps. Meanwhile...the last few days I have been updating my resume and applying at every job I can think of.

    Sorry if that was dragging on but thats mostly what I've been dealing with. Thinking everything was taken care of (as I was led to believe), having it pulled out from under me and my source of money too, then having to piece things back together and have people tell me just wait and breathe and relax, it will all work out and be ok. UGGHHH.....so much stress. and I am not just waiting for something to happen, I am trying to find work as I wait to hear from the hospital.

    Hanford Adventist health is
    Hanford Adventist health is hiring RN's.
  • Nana b
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    Gail
    Gail,
    It's so good to hear from you. What a bummer that your job situation has gone the way it has. I somehow think you are going to end up in a better place. I hate that you are under more stress right now. I hope it all goes smoothly.

    Take care.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen

    (Thanks for posting this Ron.)

    Gail just some info for you.
    http://www.eeoc.gov/facts/cancer.html
  • plh4gail
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    plh4gail said:

    Aww..thank you so much for
    Aww..thank you so much for thinking of me! That makes me feel soo good! Thanks Raquel for letting them know I'm ok, thing have just been a little hard adjusting back to the real world. I will tell a little about the past month and a half.

    I finished chemo on May 16 and my onc wanted to release me back to work 3 weeks later on June 6. I told him I wasn't ready to go back, the chemo made me feel funny and not think right and I needed more time. Remember I'm RN and have direct patient care, I didn't want to hurt anyone. So he gave me till June 28. During this time I was in contact with HR about coming back and to what position, as my ER position had been given away :((....I was led to believe I would be in a temporary 8 hour day position for a month then go into a 12 hour shift. I was released to go back June 8 and I was so ready mentally and pretty much physically. Well 3 days before I was to start I was told there was not a position for me to go to at 8 hours and that I needed to be very pro-active about my job. I took this as get your a** back to 12's so you can work. That day (a FRiday) I went back to CT and left a message for my onc to release me to 12 hour shifts with no restrictions, that I felt completely fine. First thing Monday I picked up my new work note and headed back to HR and was told there were still no shifts for those hours. I was in tears!! My personal leave was expiring in 3 days, I had no job, and my disability had ended the Friday before. I was lost, sad, speachless......well the girl in HR told me what I really needed to do was to have onc keep me off work for the month of July, and the hospital would extend my leave for the month, and to watch for openings.....OMG after I just told him I felt great and ready to work I had to find the nerve and get the guts to go right back over there and ask for the opposite. I talked to the onc Nurse (bless her heart, she's so wonderful) and she said he NEVER does this, he will say no, he wants people to get back to work. And she said she would ask him as she knew him best. Well.....later that evening she called me and told me he ok'd it!!!..unbelievable...so HR extended my leave to have a month to find a position there. And all I want is to go back to work! Now I'm trying to get my disability going again till it runs out sometime in July, but anything helps. Meanwhile...the last few days I have been updating my resume and applying at every job I can think of.

    Sorry if that was dragging on but thats mostly what I've been dealing with. Thinking everything was taken care of (as I was led to believe), having it pulled out from under me and my source of money too, then having to piece things back together and have people tell me just wait and breathe and relax, it will all work out and be ok. UGGHHH.....so much stress. and I am not just waiting for something to happen, I am trying to find work as I wait to hear from the hospital.

    Oops...lots of typo's.
    Oops...lots of typo's. Sorry...was released to go back June 28 not June 8.
  • ketziah35
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    plh4gail said:

    Oh shoot...how am I feeling
    Oh shoot...how am I feeling post chemo?....Every few days it seemed my brain was clearing and waking up. I began to feel like I had been asleep for months and now I was becoming energetic and alive. ....The neuropathy in my feel was soo bad at first! If I bent my neck to look down there was a jolt of tingles shooting out my feet. I had to take sleeping meds at night because the lightest feel of sheets on my feet kept me tossing and turning. And so much more. ....well I went to the internet and typed in chemo neuropathy vitamins and supplements and found all I could and went out and bought them ALL! Those, my prescription of Lyrica, and I guess some time ....I can tell an improvement! not gone but a little bit better. Just a little bit makes me happy and hopeful.

    Ok...I better go for now...time to get on with the day and things. Thank you so much for asking about me and I will try to get back sooner. I do keep in touch with Raquel and a few others with text and facebook also. But I will always come here to share and help others. I love my csn family so very much!!

    plh, Gail

    Praying for u
    I am praying for you!
  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
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    plh4gail said:

    Oh shoot...how am I feeling
    Oh shoot...how am I feeling post chemo?....Every few days it seemed my brain was clearing and waking up. I began to feel like I had been asleep for months and now I was becoming energetic and alive. ....The neuropathy in my feel was soo bad at first! If I bent my neck to look down there was a jolt of tingles shooting out my feet. I had to take sleeping meds at night because the lightest feel of sheets on my feet kept me tossing and turning. And so much more. ....well I went to the internet and typed in chemo neuropathy vitamins and supplements and found all I could and went out and bought them ALL! Those, my prescription of Lyrica, and I guess some time ....I can tell an improvement! not gone but a little bit better. Just a little bit makes me happy and hopeful.

    Ok...I better go for now...time to get on with the day and things. Thank you so much for asking about me and I will try to get back sooner. I do keep in touch with Raquel and a few others with text and facebook also. But I will always come here to share and help others. I love my csn family so very much!!

    plh, Gail

    Good luck mate
    You have my best wishes for getting your life back togeather. I know how hard it can be. People outside ca just don't get it that chemo is a gift that just keeps giving and giving. But from our side you need to get back to work just to to get your confidence in life back. I was lucky in one respect,I was begged to come back to work early in my year of chemo. You will be fine and back in work before you know it,hugs Ron.
  • jjaj133
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    plh4gail said:

    Oh shoot...how am I feeling
    Oh shoot...how am I feeling post chemo?....Every few days it seemed my brain was clearing and waking up. I began to feel like I had been asleep for months and now I was becoming energetic and alive. ....The neuropathy in my feel was soo bad at first! If I bent my neck to look down there was a jolt of tingles shooting out my feet. I had to take sleeping meds at night because the lightest feel of sheets on my feet kept me tossing and turning. And so much more. ....well I went to the internet and typed in chemo neuropathy vitamins and supplements and found all I could and went out and bought them ALL! Those, my prescription of Lyrica, and I guess some time ....I can tell an improvement! not gone but a little bit better. Just a little bit makes me happy and hopeful.

    Ok...I better go for now...time to get on with the day and things. Thank you so much for asking about me and I will try to get back sooner. I do keep in touch with Raquel and a few others with text and facebook also. But I will always come here to share and help others. I love my csn family so very much!!

    plh, Gail

    I am sorry you have to go
    I am sorry you have to go throught this. I thought if you were on med. leave your job had to be held for you ?
    hugs and good luck,'Judy
  • Annabelle41415
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    Update
    Thanks for posting and glad that you are hanging in there. It's always nice to see that smiling face.

    Kim
  • marqimark
    marqimark Member Posts: 242 Member
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    Cancer in Washington state is considered a disablity. Your employer, at least one as large as your place of work, has to hold your job for you. I cannot believe the ill treatment you have suffered.

    Someone needs to kick them in the rear!!

    Mark
  • Buckwirth
    Buckwirth Member Posts: 1,258 Member
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    plh4gail said:

    Aww..thank you so much for
    Aww..thank you so much for thinking of me! That makes me feel soo good! Thanks Raquel for letting them know I'm ok, thing have just been a little hard adjusting back to the real world. I will tell a little about the past month and a half.

    I finished chemo on May 16 and my onc wanted to release me back to work 3 weeks later on June 6. I told him I wasn't ready to go back, the chemo made me feel funny and not think right and I needed more time. Remember I'm RN and have direct patient care, I didn't want to hurt anyone. So he gave me till June 28. During this time I was in contact with HR about coming back and to what position, as my ER position had been given away :((....I was led to believe I would be in a temporary 8 hour day position for a month then go into a 12 hour shift. I was released to go back June 8 and I was so ready mentally and pretty much physically. Well 3 days before I was to start I was told there was not a position for me to go to at 8 hours and that I needed to be very pro-active about my job. I took this as get your a** back to 12's so you can work. That day (a FRiday) I went back to CT and left a message for my onc to release me to 12 hour shifts with no restrictions, that I felt completely fine. First thing Monday I picked up my new work note and headed back to HR and was told there were still no shifts for those hours. I was in tears!! My personal leave was expiring in 3 days, I had no job, and my disability had ended the Friday before. I was lost, sad, speachless......well the girl in HR told me what I really needed to do was to have onc keep me off work for the month of July, and the hospital would extend my leave for the month, and to watch for openings.....OMG after I just told him I felt great and ready to work I had to find the nerve and get the guts to go right back over there and ask for the opposite. I talked to the onc Nurse (bless her heart, she's so wonderful) and she said he NEVER does this, he will say no, he wants people to get back to work. And she said she would ask him as she knew him best. Well.....later that evening she called me and told me he ok'd it!!!..unbelievable...so HR extended my leave to have a month to find a position there. And all I want is to go back to work! Now I'm trying to get my disability going again till it runs out sometime in July, but anything helps. Meanwhile...the last few days I have been updating my resume and applying at every job I can think of.

    Sorry if that was dragging on but thats mostly what I've been dealing with. Thinking everything was taken care of (as I was led to believe), having it pulled out from under me and my source of money too, then having to piece things back together and have people tell me just wait and breathe and relax, it will all work out and be ok. UGGHHH.....so much stress. and I am not just waiting for something to happen, I am trying to find work as I wait to hear from the hospital.

    Found a site with a lot of great resources, and it seems to be very up to date on what the law covers:

    cancerandcareers.org

    Here is the section on ADA and FMLA:

    Your Legal Rights in the Workplace: Cancer and the ADA, FMLA

    Lots of stuff here, whether you are currently employed, or are considering returning to the workforce, this looks like it can be a big help.
  • Buckwirth
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    marqimark said:

    Job
    Cancer in Washington state is considered a disablity. Your employer, at least one as large as your place of work, has to hold your job for you. I cannot believe the ill treatment you have suffered.

    Someone needs to kick them in the rear!!

    Mark

    Federal law as well
    Here is the quote from the EEOC:

    ***************************************
    5. How does the ADAAA define “disability?”
    The ADAAA and the final regulations define a disability using a three-pronged approach:

    a physical or mental impairment that substantially limits one or more major life activities (sometimes referred to in the regulations as an “actual disability”), or

    a record of a physical or mental impairment that substantially limited a major life activity (“record of”), or

    when a covered entity takes an action prohibited by the ADA because of an actual or perceived impairment that is not both transitory and minor (“regarded as”). [Section 1630.2(g)]

    **********************************

    The "record of" is probably key to those in remission. Just the fact that you were, for however long, disabled, seems to grant you the protection of the law.

    In Gail's case there are other factors that should come into play, as the Feds have even stricter restrictions on agencies, public or private, that benefit from Federal tax dollars, which probably includes just about every hospital in the country.
  • plh4gail
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    Buckwirth said:

    Found a site with a lot of great resources, and it seems to be very up to date on what the law covers:

    cancerandcareers.org

    Here is the section on ADA and FMLA:

    Your Legal Rights in the Workplace: Cancer and the ADA, FMLA

    Lots of stuff here, whether you are currently employed, or are considering returning to the workforce, this looks like it can be a big help.

    Buck and Raquel and any others interested
    The magic words must be "unless it causes the employer undue hardship".