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gbrandonwood
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Jun 15, 2011 - 12:53 am

I am from San Jose, California, currently visiting my Mom in southern Indiana. She has been diagnosed with Stage 4 Adenocarcinoma so I am here for a week working from satellite (SLOW) internet to spend some time with her. My brother from Colorado and my sisters from Arizona and Mississippi are visiting as well. As this is the place I grew up in, it's sad to be here under these circumstances, but it's great that we can all be together.

Mom just got back from the Cancer Treatment Centers of America in Tulsa and seems to be doing a bit better. I have never seen my mother so weak. She complains about various short term pains and all I can do is empathize. It breaks my heart when the best we can do is give her a back rub to make just a little bit better for the moment.

My Dad died almost three years ago from a massive heart attack. At 24, I never imagined I would lose my parents so early on in my life. The scariest thought in my mind right now is that neither of my parents will get the chance to meet the girl I will marry (nor have I yet for that matter), or grand kids from me, or how much honor I bring the people that raised me.

Cancer sucks, to be candid...I guess I should go find some livestrong bracelets.
shadowz85
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 Joined: Jun 2011
Jun 15, 2011 - 3:55 am
Hello from the West Coast

@gbrandonwood...
And here I flew from Illinois to So Cal to be with my mom who was diagnosed with lung cancer two weeks ago.
My dad passed from cancer when I was 21 (my folks divorced when I was 3, so I didn't know him very well but was sad losing the chance to get to know him as I grew into adulthood). Now I am 48 and I still don't feel ready to lose my mom. My mom says according to all the books, we should have been hoodlums; she did all the things wrong - she worked two full time jobs and was never around, didn't go to the PTA, let us watch whatever we wanted to on TV and kept us on a very loose leash. And yet, here we are, my brother and I, productive members of society. As an adult, I never needed to lean on her, but I always knew she was there. She has been my very best cheering section, always praising my accomplishments and accepting my mistakes without judgment.
You're right - life sucks. However, I will honor my mom the best way I know how - living my life with a smile on my face and passing on her values to my own kids.

Give your mom a big hug. Knowing others out there are going through what we are going through helps me feel not so alone.
sleepless in jersey
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