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Marianne313
Marianne313 Member Posts: 124
in Colorectal Cancer #1
Sorry for the way my last post ended, but I had answered the phone while typing that post and left after hanging up the phone to go to the hospital.

Long story short, brother is fine for now. He says he didn't do it on purpose (overdose that is) I honestly don't know if he did or not and probably never will know the truth.

Due to drug usage most of his life, he's not in the best of "mental health" meaning that he's forgetting LOTS of things lately, even though he's only 55, so, Social Services has stepped in and is taking his youngest child from him (which is really his grandson--the grandson is 8) and, my oldest daughter will have full custody as soon as school lets out (the 17th of this month for Maryland). He's not dealing well with losing custody of his grandson, feels like that's all he has left to live for (which is why I really don't know if he did the overdose on purpose or by accident due to his forgetfulness).

My aunts son had surgery yesterday to relieve fluid on his lungs from complications of pnemonia (he has stage 3 esophageal cancer). My aunt had her port put in yesterday (different hospital) she's supposed to call the Dr. today to schedule her first chemo appointment.

Someone mentioned that I must be strong, well, I don't know about that, I just know that I put one foot in front of the other and try to do what needs to be done because well, as my mom always said "someone has to do it" (the things that need doing that is) :). The aunt I speak of is my mom's sister. I love her dearly and the thought of losing her, even though she's 81, devastates me so I try to just not think about that--not an easy thing to avoid. A nurse yesterday mentioned that my aunt "looks frail" that kinda shocked me because I've been thinking she's looking pretty good. Maybe I just see what I want to see. Sorry all, I know I'm rambling again.

I know some of this isn't related to colon cancer--sorry about that too but to me all of these issues kinda blend in.

Thanks for the comments on the other post, and thank you all for listening, and caring.

Marianne

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  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
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    ((((((((Marianne)))))))))) Hugs ron.
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  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
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    You're Doing Quite Well
    You've had alot of life changes in such a short amount of time - anybody's head would be dizzy with all that you've got going on.

    I hope this storm passes quickly and you can catch a breath and get some rest for yourself.

    I'll go with Ron and send a big hug:)

    -Craig
  • Marianne313
    Marianne313 Member Posts: 124
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    ron50 said:

    ((((((((Marianne)))))))))) Hugs ron.
    .

    hugs
    they can work wonders, can't they?

    thank you isn't enough, but it's all I have to offer.
  • Marianne313
    Marianne313 Member Posts: 124
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    Sundanceh said:

    You're Doing Quite Well
    You've had alot of life changes in such a short amount of time - anybody's head would be dizzy with all that you've got going on.

    I hope this storm passes quickly and you can catch a breath and get some rest for yourself.

    I'll go with Ron and send a big hug:)

    -Craig

    hugs
    thank you Craig. What else can relay how much you guys mean to me. you're all so kind. and even a virtual hug feels great.


    thank you
  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
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    Dear Marianne
    Don't ever worry that a post may not be all about colon cancer. Whether patient or caregiver, all the other stuff going on in our lives is a part of the whole.

    You definately have your hands full at the moment, and a very big heart to take it all on.

    Hug those you can, while you can. My thoughts and prayers for you and your loved ones.

    Marie who loves kitties
  • thingy45
    thingy45 Member Posts: 632 Member
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    Lovekitties said:

    Dear Marianne
    Don't ever worry that a post may not be all about colon cancer. Whether patient or caregiver, all the other stuff going on in our lives is a part of the whole.

    You definately have your hands full at the moment, and a very big heart to take it all on.

    Hug those you can, while you can. My thoughts and prayers for you and your loved ones.

    Marie who loves kitties

    My thoughts and prayers are
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. It was me also who had to look after an aunt, but as you said, you do what you have to do and we love them.
    However, with all that is going on, try to find a little time for yourself.
    BIG HUGS,
    Marjan
  • John23
    John23 Member Posts: 2,122 Member
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    Meow !

    Well said Marie !

    Vent whenever you feel the need to, Marianne. Cancer seems
    to pull together the oddest of couples; we all have our personal
    problems that we feel are ours alone. Posting your problems
    here, will bring forth those with similar problems.... You're not
    alone on this planet; many are going through terrible times that
    are not related to the cancer in their life.

    You'll do well, Gal.

    Stay healthy,

    John
  • pete43lost_at_sea
    pete43lost_at_sea Member Posts: 3,900 Member
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    another hug and one for the 8 year old
    i hope he gets a healthy home soon.
    hard times but you'll cope.

    hugs,
    pete
  • Marianne313
    Marianne313 Member Posts: 124
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    pete43lost_at_sea said:

    another hug and one for the 8 year old
    i hope he gets a healthy home soon.
    hard times but you'll cope.

    hugs,
    pete

    Thanks all
    I appreciate all of the comments and well wishes for my family as well as for me. I get to go to my own home, sleep in my own bed tonight, for the first time since June 2nd, wow, 11 days.

    My aunt is starting to have stomach pain :'(. I'm taking that as a very bad sign because it probably is. She gets her first chemo treatment this Thursday, the 16th. Her son is still in the hospital. I took her yesterday to see him because she's been so worried about him. She started to cry (first time I've seen her cry), I whispered to her that she shouldn't let him see her cry and she walked outside of his door. I said that to her for several reasons, one...I don't think it'd be good for him to see her crying. two...I'm hoping that if she thinks she needs to be strong for him that maybe that alone will give her the strength to make it through her treatments and three, because it will give her something to think about besides the cancer he has and the cancer she has. I can't even begin to imagine what she thinks or feels and to top everything off, she still has not had any time to grieve for the loss of her husband who passed about 5/17/11 (unexpectedly). When she heard about my brother(the overdose) she got angry, saying "it's not fair that [her son] is fighting to live and has no choice and my brother is trying to die and has a choice and that it should be my brother with cancer, not her son" then she looked at me and said "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that". I told her it was ok, I agreed that it's just not fair the way things seem to work and that I knew what she meant and that I knew she wasn't wishing harm on my brother. What else could I say??? She's right. Life isn't fair sometimes. Sorry, rambling again when I really just wanted to thank you all for being so kind and caring.

    Thank you.
    Marianne
  • AncientTiger
    AncientTiger Member Posts: 130
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    Marianne313 said:

    Thanks all
    I appreciate all of the comments and well wishes for my family as well as for me. I get to go to my own home, sleep in my own bed tonight, for the first time since June 2nd, wow, 11 days.

    My aunt is starting to have stomach pain :'(. I'm taking that as a very bad sign because it probably is. She gets her first chemo treatment this Thursday, the 16th. Her son is still in the hospital. I took her yesterday to see him because she's been so worried about him. She started to cry (first time I've seen her cry), I whispered to her that she shouldn't let him see her cry and she walked outside of his door. I said that to her for several reasons, one...I don't think it'd be good for him to see her crying. two...I'm hoping that if she thinks she needs to be strong for him that maybe that alone will give her the strength to make it through her treatments and three, because it will give her something to think about besides the cancer he has and the cancer she has. I can't even begin to imagine what she thinks or feels and to top everything off, she still has not had any time to grieve for the loss of her husband who passed about 5/17/11 (unexpectedly). When she heard about my brother(the overdose) she got angry, saying "it's not fair that [her son] is fighting to live and has no choice and my brother is trying to die and has a choice and that it should be my brother with cancer, not her son" then she looked at me and said "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that". I told her it was ok, I agreed that it's just not fair the way things seem to work and that I knew what she meant and that I knew she wasn't wishing harm on my brother. What else could I say??? She's right. Life isn't fair sometimes. Sorry, rambling again when I really just wanted to thank you all for being so kind and caring.

    Thank you.
    Marianne

    Ramble all you need to
    We're here to listen Marianne. Sounds like you've got a LOT on your plate... let whatever needs to spill over spill ;)

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