Jun 07, 2011 - 6:16 am
As of now, I do not fit in either category. I met a man online 7 months ago, we live 500 miles apart. I have been to see him 3 times with the next trip over the 4th of July weekend. We have planned for my relocation to his town in Sept after my youngest leaves for college to begin our life together.
On Sunday, his mother and brother took him to the ER after an episode of facial spasms and two weeks of his left hand being numb and weak (we thought it might have been carpal tunnel, everything pointed to that, until the facial spasm hit).
As of yesterday, they have said it's lung cancer that spread to the brain, although they have not yet done a lung biopsy. An MRI showed multiples masses on his brain.
The biopsy is scheduled for today.
I feel so helpless being so far...and unable to just hop on a plane to be with him mostly due to my job. I would move there now if my daughter had a place to live until she moves into her dorm.
He has a great family support system...and I'm so thankful for that.
We spend so much time on the phone. He's becoming very focused on the plan of action he wants to take towards his treatment and he is being so much stronger than I am...I haven't caught up with him yet I guess.
We still don't have all the details and hopefully more will be known today, but I just wanted to reach out...as I'm feeling pretty alone.