Good Afternoon. This has been a rough few weeks for me and my husband. My mother-in-law has been diagnosed with Stage IV colon cancer. Her colonoscopy showed a large mass in her colon that is cancerous. Then her CT scan showed the cancer had spread to her liver and left lung. She is receiving radiation and light chemo (portable fanny pack) for two more weeks. Then she will begin her heavy chemo. No surgery has been planned.
She is still working, but has lost 25 pounds (ending weight 145lbs) and is beginning to feel the affects of the radiation, nausea and stomach cramps. She has no appetite, so she basically refuses to eat. She is down to Ensure, rice and some chicken. The doctors told her if she loses anymore weight, they will have to admit her to the hospital. But she doesn't seem to believe them.
Besides the cancer, the biggest problem we're having is her inability to accept what is happening to her. I know that it is beyond scary for her (I lost my father to cancer when I was younger). But she is refusing to get a second opinion and is refusing our help. She tells us that she's fine. This is beyond frustrating to my husband and I because we want to be sure she is receiving the best care. But she simply refuses to fight for it. I'm not sure what else to do, except to just be there for her and hope she calls us.
If anyone has any advice, please share. I am willing to try just about anything. Thank you.