May 04, 2011 - 3:51 pm
i am new to the board an just need some suport. i am the caregiver for my mother who has cancer on unknown primary that has sperad to liver an lungs. i dont know what to do. first let me say my mother has allways beed a depressed person she has hated the world since my father died in 1989. i have been there for her the hole time an she has allways complained about somthing hurting, now that she is sick i dont know what i should be looking for. the doctor told us she only had months to live so we callen in hospis she was on it for 1 year an they took her off because she was not getting worse. she has been off for 1 year now an still dont know what is going on doctor just shakes his head an says he does not know all ct scans show it is spreading but she still eats an is not loseing any weight. all i hear is i just want to die, i have nothing to live for, and she says she is so sick but when we go to the doctor she says she is fine. so how do i know if she is in pain or not. also she has never been a nice person an thinks the hole world owes her an nothing i do i good enough. i am trying to take care of her an take care of my husband who just had back surg. please an info would help i dont know what i should be looking for.