Apr 27, 2011 - 10:32 am
I am new to this site as so many because we are now going through my husband's second round. In July 2009 he was diagnosed with Stage 4 Colon Cancer with Met in the liver. It was a shock to us as I never knew he had any symptoms because we were only married for 2 months at the time. He had a colon resection in July 2009 at a hospital that looking back was a big mistake. They never did a CT and we did not know about the liver until after his colon surgery. After 2 months recovery he started 2 months of Chemo at a different hospital and had a liver resection in January 2010 followed by 4 more months of Chemo. He was cancer free for almost 6 months and now they have found it at the resection site in his colon. After 3 months of a circus act at his last hospital we have changes hospitals and doctors again and preparing for a third surgery in two weeks.
I have been really strong through most of this as my husband also has ADHD with depression and anxiety. But it is getting really hard to deal with every day as he is having major bowel issues. I think he would be happier with a permanent colostomy bag but that scares the daylights out of him.
I have tried therapy with a counselor but all she told me was to not baby him so much and stop doing so much for him...he has cancer along with all the health problems that go with it. He does a lot around the house but you can tell it is wearing on his spirit.
Thanks for listening and I would love any suggestions!