Apr 09, 2011 - 11:31 pm
Hi everyone. This might be a little long but I have some things that I really need to get some advice on. Hopefully someone can somewhat relate and give me some advice or resources on what to do.
My mother was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer in early febuary of this year. It came as a huge shock to all of us. I live out of state and have not seen her for over six months. But we have always been EXTREMLY close and talk on the phone 4-5 times a day. She currently has a boyfriend who shes been having problems with for over a year. (Sleeping separte, constant fighting exc.) Well she was having some pain in her lower back for a couple months and told me over and over she was fine but this pain was there. Me and my siblings were always on her to go to the dr. But she never would. He live in boyfriend was aware of this and never dragged her to the dr. Just gave her a heating pad. Well one Sunday the pain became so severe that she woke up in severe pain and went to the ER. My sibling works there and made her go in. During this visit they discovered she has Colon Cancer with mets to Liver, Lungs and Kidney. One tumor is so large that it has shut down one kidney. These symptoms along with a 20-25 lb weight loss since i last saw her. This all went by the waste side with her BF. When I heard the news, I immediatley got on a plane and spent everyday and night with my mother in the hospital. I was away from my family and my job for almost three weeks with my mom. In turn I had to lose my job exc. This was all fine to me, because my mother needed me and my husband understood. Long story short, She was given a prognosis of a about a month. She made the desicion to move in with me due to the relationship she was in. (He never spent one night or more than one hour in hospital, but took off work and sat at home.) He was not involved at all in anything. I had to set up Hospice, Disability, Medicaid exc. So I packed up her clothes and some personal belongings and drove up to my house which took about 2 days. She was so lessed stressed and back to being the strong positive woman I know.