Mar 05, 2011 - 3:39 am
Hello, I am new to these boards and I just really want to vent a little bit about the system that is "supposed" to help us. My husband,Daniel (43) was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer with mets to both the liver and the lungs a little over 2 months ago. We are at a loss about how we are going to survive this financialy. He is the only one in our home who works. I have been unemployed for over a year now and can't find work. Even if I wanted to work, I couldn't because there would be no one to take care of my husband and keep all these appointments in order. On top of this we have 5 children between us who also need our time and support.
Sorry to get off topic... My complaint is this, why can't we get some help from the government?? Dissability says because he's still trying to work they have to deny him. The welfare office said pretty much the same thing. He's working 20-30 hrs a week (enough to pay for our health insurance, which we get through his employer!) and bringing home almost nothing.
Dissability says after he quits his job then he will qualify, AFTER the 5 month waiting period!! We don't know if he even HAS 5 months. In the meantime, who's going to pay our house payment? Buy our groceries? Pay for our medications?
I am a type two diabetic with a bad back. I'm on multiple medications. My husband is also on multiple medications due to a heart attack he had back in April of 2010. We need the health insurance his working provides.
I am sooo lost here. We don't know what to do. No one seems to be able to help us. He is worried about me and our home and having food so he refuses to quit. BUT if he doesn't quit, he can't get any help.
I don't know what to do anymore and neither does he. So on top of worrying about whether or not the chemo is working and trying to take care of my husband I have to worry about loosing everything.
I don't want to give up, but, I can't take all this. It's driving me crazy. I can't sleep anymore for the stress. My family Dr keeps telling me that I have to take care of myself in order to be able to care for my husband but how am I supposed to do that??
I'm sorry for the long rant and all of my complaining. I just don't have anyone that I can talk to. My friends seem to have all dissapeared. My husband is my best friend, the person I share all my troubles with, it hurts him to know how worried I am. He keeps telling me that he's not afraid to die, he's afraid for me and my future...
Again, I'm sorry for the long rant. I'm just looking for answers to questions that I don't know who to ask.
Thanks for listening.