Feb 10, 2011 - 2:37 am
As Caregivers our goal is to always be there. To love, support and accompany our loved ones on this journey. We take note pads and pens, we take snacks for them during chemo, we anxiously wait in waiting rooms.
At about the middle point of my journey with my love, I began to read about Hospice, and when his time to depart this world would come. I did not believe that it would be as soon as it ended up being. Looking back, I am glad I did. Not that I knew everything there was to know, but enough to not be so afraid of what was happening in the end, so that I could be there for him.
Recently, I came upon a couple of articles and posts, and found them to be very enlightening. Please, do not be hurt or offended by my suggestion to read these. I wish I had read them even before his diagnosis.
As his Oncologist once told me, after getting to know us, she said that I was the type of person that used the knowledge and information to better understand the situation, and that helped me cope in the difficult times. She also said, that some folks did not want to know everything. They coped better with not knowing all the details.
If you are one, as I am, that can use the information to better cope with the situation, then I really think you may find these articles worth reading. I tell you in advance, they deal with symptoms of the end of life, so again, if you don't wish to go there, please don't.
A wonderfully written post by Dr. West on cancergrace.org, here is the link:
A very insightful, well written article by Atul Gawande, featured in The New Yorker,
I know that as Caregivers it is our daily fight, our daily prayer and hope, that we never have to deal with the passing of our loved ones. So again, I say, not everyone will have the need for this information, I know that some of your loved ones will be the ones that beat this beast! And I pray for that, for all of you. It just felt that so many Caregivers were and are going through these most difficult moments recently, I felt moved to suggest reading these articles.
With a sincere heart,