Dec 27, 2010 - 10:00 pm
My husband has been cancer free for quite a few months, his CT Scan/PET Scan is on Jan 5. I have always bent over backwards and forwards because it's what you do for a loved one. I'd run across the world back and forth if I had to. But, he has been having a hard time coping with the aftermath of being laid off, cancer, and the rest of what cancer brings. Everything changes and it only made us stronger. I just can not handle the alcohol issues. When he drinks, it is a fake happiness and things get worse. My whole point of writing this is because I need some guidance, he doesn't think his drinking is an issue, but it effects me a ton. He watches our 3 year old while drinking a lot and I just don't like it. This drinking habit feels like it's second to none, and I know it isn't, but it really did put a void in our relationship. I understand the cancer is life altering and I understand that just because he is cancer free it doesn't mean he is going to get back to normal soon, I completely understand that, I'd wait an eternity just to see him get better and be happy. So it's really contradicting for me to hate that he drinks too much. Today was the last straw and I don't know what to do. We have had counseling but not extensive and we are currently trying to manage his pain pill intake. What do I do to fix this? Do I just let it be and wait for him to stop? Or do I do what I think is right of trying to persuade him that it really isn't good for him? I am not asking for him to get better in a split second I just want to see that he is being productive and gaining life back, no matter how long it takes. He can stay home for the rest of life or take up tons of hobbies, I just want him to be happy, without alcohol.