Dec 13, 2010 - 1:55 pm
On Monday 12/6 I lost a friend to cancer. He was only 35. He was diagnosed with stage 4 in is liver and it had spread to his lungs by the time it was discovered. He only lived a few months after being diagnosed.
Right now I feel like I am just in shock and have no idea what to do or how to feel. We were roommates after college and we moved on with our lives, but we remained friends. We talked a couple times a year, and met up for dinner on our birthday's and the holidays.
When you are this young I guess you never think of dying. I feel so awful right now. As I begin to start a family I can't help but think of all the things he will not see or do and it makes me feel even worse. I also worry about his wife, as she too is very young and I know he was her whole life.
How do we offer support without making her feel worse too? I know they were planning on starting a family as well and hand big plans for their future. Would I be out of place to suggest grief counseling?
I sympathize with all here who have lost a loved one. This is by far the worst thing in the world.