Dec 12, 2010 - 12:59 pm
My mom was dx with breast cancer that has spread to her spine, pelvis and hips. She has several fractured ribs. She is schedualed for a colonoscopy because they think it is in her colon too. She was given the smallest dose for morophine.
My mom has been in excruciating pain and her back is visably messed up. She has a hospital bed in her living room and sleep next to her in a recliner. She doesnt want to get out of bed because of her pain, but says that laying in the bed she has none. Home Health, her doctors, our family and I all want to see her regain as much of her life as possible (she "says" she does too). But she refuses to take her pain med because she says she is afraid of getting dependent on them (even though over and over everyone assures her this wont happen) and because she never used to take pills even for a cold.
When I have flat out told her that she has 2 choices, one being to have her body seize body up and be bedridden maybe forever or two is to take pain meds and regain her life she argues with me and because she IS in pain and it is upsetting and she is my mom afterall, I dont want to argue with her and let her win. Argh!!!
I am sooo thankful for the internet and this group and not feeling so alone right now going thru this. Thank you all