Oct 06, 2010 - 10:57 am
My boyfriend was one of those people who never even gets a cold. Now, in the space of 4 months, he has been hospitalized, undergone treatment for metastasized cancer, and on top of it somehow ended up with a detached retina, and has had 2 surgical procedures to repair it. He was doing really well with the cancer treatment, but the eye problem on top of it has knocked him for a loop, and I've never seen him so depressed and demoralized. Yesterday he had his second eye surgery and now has to keep his head face down, literally, for a week. He hardly slept last night. And when this is over, he goes right into chemotherapy. It's hard to know how to motivate him to keep his spirits up (or my own), when there doesn't seem anything to be positive about at the moment.
Mostly this post is just a venue for me to vent; I stayed home from work today to take him to the eye doctor and he dozed off on the sofa, leaving me alone with my messy thoughts. I'm also struggling with figuring out when to be on him about being compliant with doctor's instructions, and when to back off. I can see him now with his head tilted in the wrong position, but if I keep harping on it he will tune me out or get angry. If I don't, it drives me crazy knowing it could affect a full recovery.
I was also thinking of all of you who have multiple medical issues or are caring for someone who does; it's hard enough dealing with the cancer, much less than dealing with that on top of other issues. Neither of us ever imagined we'd be in this situation, but here we are. It takes a lot of inner strength and resources.
Thanks for listening!