Aug 28, 2010 - 10:31 am
Help appreciated with following: Background info on situation: Adult children not on good terms with father due to his affair while they were teens that led to our divorce then his marriage to the other woman. Many ugly actions and words by other woman to me & kids before/after she married x. Children love but have no meaningful relationship with dad. Same for dad. They are all stubborn.
A couple years ago x's wife had tumor removed from colon that was cancerous. Dr. suggested chemo/rad but she refused. Now she has mets in liver, tumor on hip area that can be felt/seen, losing weight quickly, signs of jaundice, weak, and tired. She still refuses chemo or other treatment offered by dr. She doesn't even want biopsy done.
The kids are hurting for their dad. They want to reach out but don't know how. They know she does not like them, so they don't want to make situation worse. Despite the background, neither the kids or I want her to suffer like this. She needs all of her strength to fight this her own way.
They could send her a card saying they forgive her but she doesn't think she did anything wrong. I suggested they call or send their dad a card saying they are sorry for the situation, but they haven't done so yet.
Based on her symptoms.....can anyone offer a suggestion?