Aug 14, 2010 - 8:04 pm
I can not imagine what anyone feels when the doctor says those three dreaded words "you have cancer".
I only know what I as a spouse and caregiver felt... devistated.
That was 4 years ago. My husband of 5 years (at the time) called me at work to tell me his dr had just explained to him he did not have pneumonia as previously thought but a rather large tumor on his left lung.
After several rather intense rounds of chemo, his left lung removed, 2 infections in his chest cavity and a pulmonary embolism he was finally on the road to recovery.
We went through the living for 3 months at a time that all cancer patients have to endure, then every six months. Still every six months even after 4 years.
My husband is doing well considering, with no reports of any new cancer.
The problem is I like a lot of caregivers have a very angry man that I live with. Very selfish, uncaring, angry man.
He says things that are unbelievably hurtful. He has alienated everyone in his family and most of his friends.
I have tried over the 4 years to be understanding, patient, and loving but I am so angry and hurt.
I thought about a therapist,the insurance company only gives you 16 visits - out of which you have to pay 40% of each visit, but because of the cancer we have been having financial problems. (another reason he is so angry).
I found this site purely by accident and find that (although it pains me to know someone else is enduring the same thing) it truely helps to know that someone out there understands.
Not only do I wish there was psychological help for ALL cancer patients, I wish there was more of a support system (counseling and support groups) for caregivers.
GOD bless all of you caregivers, cancer patients and your family members.