Jul 09, 2010 - 12:52 pm
my husband and i are care-givers for his 95 yr old father. he has inoperable prostate cancer that has spread to his liver, gallbladder, bladder, one kidney and hip bones. therefore, making it terminal. he is quite out of it these days - slips in and out of reality and confusion. when he was still of able-mind, the involved family members decided it best to not be honest about his condition to him. which, at the time, we thought would just make him worry. well, now that he is slipping...he continues to ask about operations for his cancer. is it cruel to say he is fine? or should we tell him the truth? either way, i'm not sure how much information he will retain. but, at the same time, i think i would want to know, given the situation.
and ideas or thoughts??