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dottie68
dottie68 Member Posts: 31
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
but, I had my right breast taken off, because of cancer being in the ducts, didn't bother me, something had to do, now I can't look at my left breast, I hate it. I wish I had the left taken off too. Am I crazy, nuts, unstable.
Dottie

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  • cabbott
    cabbott Member Posts: 1,039 Member
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    Not crazy
    We are entitled to our feelings. Finding out that our breast or breasts have developed a disease that, should it spread, could threaten our very life, is little different than finding out that a wood foundation of a house let termites in that are slowly destroying where we live or finding out that a glass front door let a burglar in the house that is stealing all we own. Once caught and corrected, most folks in those situations would take steps to make sure it wouldn't happen again and no one would think them nuts for buying a different house with a cement foundation or replacing the broken glass door with a metal unbreakable one.

    But be careful before you contemplate surgery on a perfectly healthy breast. Removing more tissue to prevent cancer or lengthen life was an experiment already pushed on women in the United States over and over again in the 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's and somewhat into the 90's. It was a failure. Research showed that removing primary cancers and a rim of healthy tissue around the tumors seemed to often effect a cure or at least lengthen the disease free survival time a person had. So if some is good, the idea that more is better was born. In Europe, the doctors found that lumpectomies followed by radiation resulted in just as long of lifespan as radical mastectomies in the US. Sometimes the results were even better than the extra surgery cases. Doctors in the US didn't believe in the minimum approach for the longest time. You can still run into doctors that insist that a woman have more surgery than necessary. I had a local GYN that insisted that all his patients with breast cancer get their ovaries out, a procedure my oncologist at a University teaching hospital said was totally unnnecessary. The oncologist was going with the current research. The gyn was 15 years out of med school and I switched gyn docs after I did my homework. More just isn't better if it is healthy tissue you are removing.

    I had to have a mastectomy because the cancer showed up in two different spots and two lumpectomies on my size small breast just wouldn't look too good. Also, the kind of cancer I had was likely to be scattered throughout the breast and I didn't want to go through the operation again any time soon. I opted to keep my left breast. I have had a call back now and then for extra shots on it for a calcification that showed up, but it hasn't grown and the breast is still there. That was back in 2002. The left breast so far is doing okay. I have to have yearly exams and I worry the night before each just a little. But after the first year or two following the mastectomy I worried less and less. Getting to the 5 year mark was a big hurdle. I used to always be looking for lumps and such. Now I have to remind myself to remember to check. So the fear part has really eased up.

    If you are contemplating mastectomy out of fear, talk to your doctor and read the research. Ask questions about what the difference in your life span and life quality would be. In some cases, a preventitive mastectomy may be a good idea. In other cases, close medical supervision is sufficient. Genetic testing could be useful in determing how likely the cancer may reoccur on the other side. Interpretation of the path report helps too. But make sure you go to a really good breast oncologist and not my gyn that was behind the times as far as cancer treatment outcomes goes.

    If you want a mastectomy just to look balanced, your insurance company might foot the bill (money is a consideration . . .)It can be a type of reconstruction if the doctor writes it up correctly. Here a good plastic surgeon can be helpful. By the way, tissue from the abdomen, should you opt for that kind of reconstruction, can't get breast cancer in it. So you have options.

    Good luck with your decision!

    C. Abbott
  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member
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    cabbott said:

    Not crazy
    We are entitled to our feelings. Finding out that our breast or breasts have developed a disease that, should it spread, could threaten our very life, is little different than finding out that a wood foundation of a house let termites in that are slowly destroying where we live or finding out that a glass front door let a burglar in the house that is stealing all we own. Once caught and corrected, most folks in those situations would take steps to make sure it wouldn't happen again and no one would think them nuts for buying a different house with a cement foundation or replacing the broken glass door with a metal unbreakable one.

    But be careful before you contemplate surgery on a perfectly healthy breast. Removing more tissue to prevent cancer or lengthen life was an experiment already pushed on women in the United States over and over again in the 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's and somewhat into the 90's. It was a failure. Research showed that removing primary cancers and a rim of healthy tissue around the tumors seemed to often effect a cure or at least lengthen the disease free survival time a person had. So if some is good, the idea that more is better was born. In Europe, the doctors found that lumpectomies followed by radiation resulted in just as long of lifespan as radical mastectomies in the US. Sometimes the results were even better than the extra surgery cases. Doctors in the US didn't believe in the minimum approach for the longest time. You can still run into doctors that insist that a woman have more surgery than necessary. I had a local GYN that insisted that all his patients with breast cancer get their ovaries out, a procedure my oncologist at a University teaching hospital said was totally unnnecessary. The oncologist was going with the current research. The gyn was 15 years out of med school and I switched gyn docs after I did my homework. More just isn't better if it is healthy tissue you are removing.

    I had to have a mastectomy because the cancer showed up in two different spots and two lumpectomies on my size small breast just wouldn't look too good. Also, the kind of cancer I had was likely to be scattered throughout the breast and I didn't want to go through the operation again any time soon. I opted to keep my left breast. I have had a call back now and then for extra shots on it for a calcification that showed up, but it hasn't grown and the breast is still there. That was back in 2002. The left breast so far is doing okay. I have to have yearly exams and I worry the night before each just a little. But after the first year or two following the mastectomy I worried less and less. Getting to the 5 year mark was a big hurdle. I used to always be looking for lumps and such. Now I have to remind myself to remember to check. So the fear part has really eased up.

    If you are contemplating mastectomy out of fear, talk to your doctor and read the research. Ask questions about what the difference in your life span and life quality would be. In some cases, a preventitive mastectomy may be a good idea. In other cases, close medical supervision is sufficient. Genetic testing could be useful in determing how likely the cancer may reoccur on the other side. Interpretation of the path report helps too. But make sure you go to a really good breast oncologist and not my gyn that was behind the times as far as cancer treatment outcomes goes.

    If you want a mastectomy just to look balanced, your insurance company might foot the bill (money is a consideration . . .)It can be a type of reconstruction if the doctor writes it up correctly. Here a good plastic surgeon can be helpful. By the way, tissue from the abdomen, should you opt for that kind of reconstruction, can't get breast cancer in it. So you have options.

    Good luck with your decision!

    C. Abbott

    No the asymetry can drive
    No the asymetry can drive you crazy. My remaining breast was very large and difficult to match. since I had radiation, the reconstruction would have been more involved than I wanted . So I lived with it. after a few biopsies I was wanting a propholactic mastectomy, I was in the process when I felt the lump that 5 docs and a mammo did not detect.(lobular is not always seen on mammos) I opted for another mastectomy,(then found out it was prob what I needed anyway) and curiously it felt better to be symetrical. think of reconstruction, or if your other breast is large an augmentation. think about how you would feel, as it comes in handy for some things. its an ajustment for sure!
  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
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    Dottie............
    No, not nuts. I did the same thing. And I wish now that I had been as informed at the time I made that decision, as I am now. Wish I had had a bilateral, instead of just one removed.

    CR
  • kate33
    kate33 Member Posts: 24
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    This might sound stupid
    I don't think it sounds stupid at all. Is sounds like you had DCIS in your right breast which is cancer in the milk ducts. So you now have a greater chance than average of developing it in your left breast. I had DCIS in only one breast, too, but opted for bilateral mastectomy. I felt like the other breast was just a ticking time bomb.

    Kate
  • kate33
    kate33 Member Posts: 24
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    This might sound stupid
    I don't think it sounds stupid at all. Is sounds like you had DCIS in your right breast which is cancer in the milk ducts. So you now have a greater chance than average of developing it in your left breast. I had DCIS in only one breast, too, but opted for bilateral mastectomy. I felt like the other breast was just a ticking time bomb.

    Kate
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    Ooops- posted twice

    Ooops- posted twice
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  • sweetvickid
    sweetvickid Member Posts: 459 Member
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    kate33 said:

    Ooops- posted twice

    Ooops- posted twice

    Not stupid.
    I opted for a bilaterial. mentally I can handle no breast better than I could handle one breast.
  • m_azingrace
    m_azingrace Member Posts: 399
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    Not stupid.
    I opted for a bilaterial. mentally I can handle no breast better than I could handle one breast.

    Totally understandable
    I had lumpectomy on my left breast. As it turned out, there was more involvement than the tests showed, so when the surgeon was finished, it was as if she had scooped most of the center out. Now my girls don't even come close to being similar, either in size or position. Some of the fatty tissue seems to have filled back in, but it's nothing close to normal. When I'm gettng dressed, I sort of squish them around so they match as well as possible. I don't look at them any more than necessary. I don't hate them, I just would like them better if they matched up.
  • angelo2
    angelo2 Member Posts: 2
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    No you are not crazy ---
    I had my left breast removed in May 2008, but not my right because it was not cancerous. I almost wished that the doctor recommended that the right breast needed to come off too. So when I was tested for the BRCAII gene and it came back positive, I lost no time in making the decision to take the other breast in December 2009. I felt so much better with both of them gone. Even so, I am just now feeling good about my body.
    Be patient with yourself and don't beat yourself up for your feelings. You are not alone!
    Anne
  • ms.sunshine
    ms.sunshine Member Posts: 707 Member
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    angelo2 said:

    No you are not crazy ---
    I had my left breast removed in May 2008, but not my right because it was not cancerous. I almost wished that the doctor recommended that the right breast needed to come off too. So when I was tested for the BRCAII gene and it came back positive, I lost no time in making the decision to take the other breast in December 2009. I felt so much better with both of them gone. Even so, I am just now feeling good about my body.
    Be patient with yourself and don't beat yourself up for your feelings. You are not alone!
    Anne

    No question is stupid when
    No question is stupid when dealing with cancer.
    I had a lumpectomy on my left breast, and my doc removed some tissue from my right, just to even me up. It doesn't look bad at all. More than likely will not need reconstructive surgery. Since the weight has been taken off I haven't had any shoulder/backaches.