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Possible to do the right thing and feel sad?
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Jun 04, 2010 - 8:53 am
Don died April 13th. I'm gradually making changes in the house. I realize I'm doing it partly to get the memories of his youngest daughter out of the house and partly because in a small way it's a way of taking control of my life in spite of the continuing threat she poses to me. If you have to live behind locked doors, at least you can have places inside that look pretty and will stay that way. She never came into the house without rearranging, changing, losing or breaking something. I began to hide the things I loved. Now I can put them out and enjoy them. And that's good. But the house doesn't look the way it did when Don was here. Some days or nights that makes me so sad. These are changes I would normally make eventually, but not this soon. I don't know how to feel about it. Sometimes I think Don would be pleased to see me trying to live a normal life. Sometimes I'm just sad. |
Joined: Aug 2009
I completely changed my bedroom, and moved the furniture around in the living room. I have been told that that is a good sign. It shows that I have reached the acceptance stage and understand that my life has changed. I am making the house more user friendly for that new life. That doesn't mean that I like that life. It just shows that I have accepted it. I have kept some things the same. Doug had an office in our garage. I have no plans to change it right now. I don't use it and right now have no plans for it. I do think making changes in our living space is good for us. Some of the changes are ones Doug and I had talked about. Others just make sense. We are moving forward. We need to do that. Fay
Joined: Apr 2010
We had to change things the next day after my husband died just to get my 10 year old daughter to come back into the house. I wasn't ready for that b