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I am going up from FL to NJ in Sept. (probably) to take Don's ashes to the family plot. I have been looking forward to that time to rest, see the places we love, relax.

The oldest, who's been very nice to me, wanted to come with her three children and make it a family trip, but I told her I needed that time alone. Disappointed Don's son, also, as he hoped I'd pay for him to come along.

The only thing I did think of doing was taking two trains and public transportation to have dinner in MA with my family. That fell thru because they were all tooooo busy to do that. Too busy all of Sept., too busy in August, etc., etc., etc.

A friend I chat with online said she'd drive 3 and a half hours down from PA to spend a day with me and that would have been fine, a nice break, not long, a distraction. She's always been supportive.

However, now she's talking about coming with her husband and child for 2-3 days. They would arrive earlier on the day I fly in -- I won't get in until 9ish. I plan on church the next day and also expect to be tired from traveling.

Mostly, I just don't want company that long. I have traveled alone before. I like the idea of setting my own schedule and not having to watch the time, compromise what I feel up to doing, etc.

Is this odd of me? How do I tactfully explain that a day is fine, but no more than that?

Help!