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What They Say -vs- What They Really Mean

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AnnaLeigh
Posts: 177
Joined: Jan 2010

They say - You are so strong ! (or) You will need to stay strong !
They mean - You will have to do this by yourself.
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They say - Call if you need anything.
They mean - I will come if it is a dire emergency and only if you can reach me in person and not my voice mail.
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They say - I don't have to worry about that type of cancer because it does not run in my family.
They mean - I can keep my head in the sand if I want to.
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They say - Why haven't you responded to my phone calls or e-mails?
They mean - I don't come around often enough to understand how all-consuming your illness and treatment are.
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They say - You can just take an antibiotic for that infection.
They mean - I have no clue how fine the line is between life and death.
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They say - The cancer patient sounded just fine when I talked to them.
They mean - I don't believe they are that sick. You are just being dramatic.
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They say - Well, everyone dies eventually.
They mean - I don't know how to deal with your pending mortality and I certainly will not face mine anytime soon.
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They say - I hope you are taking good care of yourself.
They mean - (Buzz words for) Don't cry on me when you get overwhelmed.
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They say - Keep us posted on the progress/results/info.
They mean - I can't be bothered to get personally involved and will read your updates with the same interest and reaction as I read the daily newspaper.
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They say - Stay positive and everything will come out okay.
They mean - I am positive that I don't have cancer because I am still naive enough to believe this.

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halsons
Posts: 76
Joined: Apr 2010

Wow this is so true. I have heard most of this more than once. Haley

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AnnaLeigh
Posts: 177
Joined: Jan 2010

They say - What can I do to help? Is there anything that you need?

What they really mean - I am here for you with no conditions and restrictions attached. I am not afraid to face this disaster with you and I understand that you will need help and assistance to get through this so please let me do something. We will make it through this together.

GregStahl
Posts: 188
Joined: Apr 2010

"They say - Keep us posted on the progress/results/info.
They mean - I can't be bothered to get personally involved and will read your updates with the same interest and reaction as I read the daily newspaper."

This is brother, and most of my wifes family. I can guarantee I will have ZERO help once Ruby has surgery and treatments. They may take my 7 yr old for a night, but nothing else.

ruthelizabeth
Posts: 146
Joined: May 2009

They say -- Stay strong. Think positive.

They mean (some of them) -- It's your job to take care of him. Don't bother us with problems.

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