Apr 22, 2010 - 12:24 pm
Don died 4/13. It will be a while before I get a chance to really grieve for him.
His 22-year-old has been violent in the past and is now enraged, both at him and at me and at life in general. Don lent her his car to get to and from work, but although she badgered him to give it to her (starting in December when he was still able to drive), he refused to do it. He wanted me to have it (it's specifically in the will) so I could pay all the bills I was incurring for him. I finally got it back from her and she left a threatening phone call and then came and ripped and burned the screen on the entryway, trying to break in.
At the end of March when I was home, JEnnifer tampered with Don's oxygen machine. Can I legally prove it? No. BUt she was the last person to touch it at about 7PM and she knows how to use it. At 6AM after a very restless, difficult night, Don said he couldn't breathe. WHen I checked the machine, the flow meter had been cut from 5 to 2.5 and the tube had been uncoupled.
But it's not just the car. Don and his ex split all her bills and now she's facing the fact that her life is changing. She'll have to support herself and as she screamed a few years ago, she "WANTS MY THINGS!" Of course, all "her" things have always been paid for by her parents. She's at least twice my size and has beaten me up in the past. To her I look like a vulnerable target and also the person who is not contributing to her comfortable life. I suspect that if her mother ever tells her she can't live at home free, her mother will become a target for the very first time.
Sorry for the long post. Just wanted you all to know. Thanks.