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        			    February 8, 2010 - 12:37am			  			

			
			
my wife is just 40 yrs old and has stage 4 melanoma it is in every lymth node in all limbs and small spot in left lung, and in thyroid glands. Her right breast is 3 times bigger than the left. The doctor is looking to see if any trial studies are out there but it doesnt look good. Anyone out thier know of anything


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February 8, 2010 - 9:03pm

			
so terribly sad
			
I am so sorry to hear of your wife's diagnosis. I know nothing about her form of cancer, but stage 4 of anything is not good. 


If the doctors have nothing to offer her, don't forget that she is not through living. A special kind of living can take place when one's days are limited and precious. Reassure her that you'll be there for her no matter what. Love is the greatest comforter of all. 



			
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February 9, 2010 - 11:32am

			
thank you, we go see the
			
thank you, we go see the doctor tomorrow to find out if he found any trial studies. i have a feeling that he is going to try a mix of chemo drugs. but we will see. again thanks again.



			
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February 27, 2010 - 11:08pm

			
trial study docs say that
			
trial study docs say that she is not able to do trials because she is not physicaly able. She started carboplatin and taxol last thursday and is having it real rough now she just got 2 pints of blood yesterday and seems to be more sick and weak then she was before. Deb as said that if the side affects get any worse that she wants to quit the chemo and call hospis. I told her that I would suport her. This is real rough for me it tears me up to see her suffer so much. The cancer has spread so fast since 5/2009 and IL2, DTIC, and now not to able to do trial studies(3) and these current chemos are making it rough for her. I have been off work now for the past 5 weeks and the famliy says it hurts them to see her so bad off (but I dont need to complain about that). Please keep us in your prayers and 



			
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February 25, 2010 - 6:17pm

			
Sorry to hear about your
			
Sorry to hear about your wife's Dx.  Make sure you ask your onc about Plexikon's bRAF inhibitor, it is doing wonders in advanced melanoma, nice articles in the New York Times this week.  Take care and let us know if you can get your wife in a trial or maybe compassionate use protocol.



			
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February 25, 2010 - 6:25pm

			
Here is a link to the series
			
Here is a link to the series of articles

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/24/health/research/24trial.html?em



			
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February 27, 2010 - 11:05pm

			
Thanks for looking out
			
trial study docs say that she is not able to do trials because she is not physicaly able. She started carboplatin and taxol last thursday and is having it real rough now she just got 2 pints of blood yesterday and seems to be more sick and weak then she was before. Deb as said that if the side affects get any worse that she wants to quit the chemo and call hospis. I told her that I would suport her. This is real rough for me it tears me up to see her suffer so much. The cancer has spread so fast since 5/2009 and IL2, DTIC, and now not to able to do trial studies(3) and these current chemos are making it rough for her. I have been off work now for the past 5 weeks and the famliy says it hurts them to see her so bad off (but I dont need to complain about that). Please keep us in your prayers and again thanks for the web sites.



			
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February 28, 2010 - 12:03pm

			
Tough Time
			
This is a very tough time for both of you. It is so hard to watch our loved ones suffer. My husband used to tell me that it was harder on me than him. We want to fix them, to make it better, but there is only so much we can do. You are doing the best you can, but sometimes it just doesn't seem like enough. I will keep you both in my prayers as you go through the decision making process. Whatever decision your wife makes, it will continue to be very difficult. Letting her make the decision and supporting it, is the loving thing to do. Fay



			
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February 28, 2010 - 11:40pm

			
Thank you this realy helps

			
Thank you this realy helps



			
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February 28, 2010 - 9:38pm

			
just a story
			
My neighbor's wife was in Deb's situation, and she decided to stop treatment. She died peacefully at home three months later. It was a very special time for all, and her name is still spoken with reverence. My neighbor has remarried, and his current wife doesn't mind the gold amulet he wears around his neck in memory of the woman he loved and lost.


Your wife will decide for herself, but accepting the special help that hospice can offer will make a huge difference in the quality of the days ahead.


A first name might help focus prayers, give them a little extra lift. Deb and ???



			
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February 28, 2010 - 11:43pm

			
my name is Randy and thank
			
my name is Randy and thank you so much.



			
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