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My Mom
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Oct 05, 2009 - 2:27 am
My mom is passing from ovarian cancer. she is here at home with me. She is so young, only 63. I have never used a chat room or discussion board before, but hopefully i can get some help. I'm scared, i'm scared about what to do, what to expect, what ...i'm just very scared. She has been seeing "people" in the room such as my grandfather who passed 26 yrs ago, she also asks for her brother who's been gone longer. She talks gibberish and doesn't recognize me. I feel so alone. |
Joined: Jun 2009
are you the only family she has ? if not ask the other family members or friends to help. get hospice to come in and help you. sounds like your mother is not in pain but is readying for her final journey. right now you are the one who needs comfort and some guidance through this. hospice can guide you but family and friends are your comfort, ask for it.
Joined: Nov 2005
recently went through exactly this situation with his mother. Now, I live 900 miles away and, of course, could not be there to relieve him in his daily vigil with his mother. But he and I did talk online every day. He was able to 'let go' with me in a way he could not do with his close family members, not wanting to add to their burden. The daily contact was also of great benefit to me as his mother was my dear friend as well.
Try to find someone, either in 'real time' or online or however you can who you feel free to relate to in a very real way but who is not directly involved with this daily struggle. It will help you tremendously to be able to vent and get things off your chest. Also consider grief counseling. There is just no reason to go through this alone.
God bless.