Aug 27, 2009 - 10:29 pm
I found out today that my dad's tumor (Cancer) has spread into his pancreas and that they can not do surgery. It's position is between the pancreas and his bile duct and therefore there is nothing they can do. Dr said they will use palliative measures to keep him comfortable.
How am I supposed to tell my dad this? He is currently not in pain or known that he discloses. He is very Jaundice and has had a stent placed to relieve the obstruction. He is EXTREMELY light headed and can't really get around much. He refuses to use a wheel chair because he is waiting for these "symptoms" (as he calls them) to go away. And now I have to tell him they aren't going away...they will just get worse? I think it's going to tear him down quicker than anything knowing he has Cancer and there is nothing they can do to try to cure it. Oh God, how do you help someone stay positive about that? I don't know. I'm trying to stay strong myself for him but that's completely tearing me to pieces!
How aggressive is Pancreatic Cancer? What should we expect?
We have a dr appt next week to go over the findings but I just feel so lost now. What can I do to help prepare my dad for the devastating news that awaits him?!?!? Please...any suggestions will help. He is 86 and is showing signs of depression already.