Oct 05, 2008 - 8:27 pm
Hi: I am a 53-year-old woman who has a history of Hodgkin's lymphoma. I have been cancer free for 2 years now. I am wondering if anyone has any advice about starting new relationships. Since my diagnosis and completion of treatment, I have been reluctant to pursue romantic relationships with men. My feeling is that I don't have a right to invite someone into my life knowing there is a possibility that my cancer could return at any time, or that I could develop another kind of cancer. I have recently met a man that has the potential to lead to something wonderful, but I am afraid of telling him about my history. I have a fear that telling him (or anyone else I may meet in my lifetime) may drive him away, and I honestly couldn't blame him. But, I can't stand the thought of never having someone to spend the rest of my life with. I deserve to be happy, but do I honestly have the right to expect someone to want to be involved with me knowing what the future could hold?
I would appreciate any thoughts/advice.