Sep 15, 2008 - 3:27 am
I recently moved to a new state to begin graduate school only a month and a half after my dad was diagnosed stage IV colon cancer.
I'm having a difficult time telling new people about my situation. I guess it's mostly because I do not want to cry infront of people I hardly know. But also I don't want to parade my awful situation out in front of professors and co-workers. I'm trying to share a little bit when I feel it's necessary to explain. Sharing this information makes me feel so vulnerable. Yes, I am trying to be strong for myself. I am extremely independent, but have people who love me who I can talk to. But I'm more angry about my old best friend's refusal to acknowledge that I shared this info about my dad with her.
I phone this old best friend from the hospital the day after my dad was diagnosed. I hadn't talked to her in a month or two. I asked her to call me and said I had something to tell her. She never called. About a month later (time flew by) I finally emailed her saying "I'm sorry to tell you this in an email, but my dad has incurable cancer etc. She never wrote back. It's been a month since I sent the email, and I know she read it because she logged in to her myspace account since then. What should I do? Should I confront her saying "hey, I wrote you an email about my dad being very sick, and it really hurt that you never even responded. Why?" or do I just ignore her because she isn't a very good friend (even though I've know her for TWENTY years)?
Has anyone else experienced a friend's refusal to acknowledge an awful diagnosis? How did you deal with it?