Aug 23, 2008 - 6:14 pm
My mother has been battling cancer for 23 years. It all started in her breast. Now for the 4th time she has cancer again and it is in her brain. She has had all over brain radiation and gamma knife followed by chemo. I have taken care of her for the last 2 years....non stop. I am a sigle mohter of a 9 year old and this past year has been the most difficult.
My sister started taking over her care because it was endless for me, but when she did it for 5 days she left me totally out of the picture and my mother ended up in the ER. She is gettting better now but she went in and out of compency. My sister and brother treated me poorly because I have the POA. Now we had the famous family mtg in the hospital and my momther has easily agreed to go live with my sister and my brother will be provided financial help (to my sister who is the wife of a doctor and I was a single mother going under) no help was offered to me, financial or otherwise. I warned my mother time and time again it wasn't safe for her to be alone and she had some pretty harsh words for me.
When we left the staged family meeting at the hospital I stood up and my mom said 'Tammy thank you so much." but it was kind of like thanks for remembering to pick up my lunch. My brother and sister said nothing. I fined now that I can't talk to my family. I want some space. I have devoted my life while the rest of them have lived theirs, planned vacations, took trips and I am going financially under while helping to pay for food, apts and meds. I feel like I did all the dirty work and now my family swoops in to save the day.
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