My grandfather, who is 90, recently was not feeling well-initially had surgery for his gall bladder but didnt feel good afterwards...anyway, turned out it was a bowel obstruction and when they did the surgery, they discovered cancer "everywhere"...have given him a very short time to live. Previously, my father (his son) was diagnosed with cancer in 2001, stage 4, amazingly is still living with it and doing well.
I feel like I am in a daze-I cannot stop crying, stay up late worrying, cannot seem to deal with this latest news. I dont know what to say to my grandfather. I hate seeing him so thin and weak and knowing that this is terminal. I have dealt for years with my father's cancer but he has been a survivor and probably quite an exception to a lot of outcomes. I just cannot seem to get a handle on my grandfather's cancer-it is just so horrible when there is nothing to try to help this disease, no treatments, etc. I know my grandfather is 90 and it is comforting that he had a great long life, but it just overwhelms me with emotion that there are no options. I am struggling with everything-does anyone have any advice? Is it normal to feel like this?