Jul 06, 2007 - 7:25 pm
Yikes! It's hard to know where to start with something like this. My wife and I are a bit "gobsmacked" as the Brits would say. I guess what I'd like to hear is other's experiences with a similar diagnosis.
I'm 48, in good health. There is very little history of any type of cancer in my family, except that my great-grandfather on my mother's side died of prostate cancer in the late 1960s at the age of about 85.
My PSA is about 8.0. One side of my prostate is benign, but the other side shows Gleson 7, with Gleson 8 nearest the seminal vesicle. I don't know the "T" score.
I'm scheduled for the da Vinci in a few weeks. I'm going to have a second opinion from an oncologist, but will likely go with the surgery.
I guess the $64,000 question is whether the cancer is still encapsulated or not. My Uro says about 50-60% chance that it has escaped the capsule. He also says he won't know for sure until he goes in with the 'bot. The not knowing is nerve-racking.
My wife and I are quite frightened. A lot of the literature seems to be focused on "don't worry too much if you've caught it early." Well, we've caught this at an intermediate stage rather than early, so now what?
My sexual functioning is very important to me, but at this point I'm not sure I care what the doc cuts in order to try to stop this crap from getting into my bones.
Sorry for the long post, but we're in a bit of shock and any thoughts, advice, encouragement, or cold realities we need to prepare for would be appreciated. Any tips on how the heck you just keep functioning in your life with this thing looming would be helpful.
One specific question: does anyone where I can find survival statistics based on my stage of cancer AND my age range (say 40-49)?
Thanks in advance for your kindness.