It is too bad that as a gay man, I can't seem to much support information concerning cancer. However, I am glad to see this discusion group.
On my 43 birthday (past Jan) I found out I had a villous polyp than showed cancer. They were unable to removed the complete polyp, and I was told that to remove it part of my sigmoid would have to be removed. The cancer was staged as 0 (en-situ). I hoped since I was lucky and the cancer was discovered so early I would be able to have a non-invasive procedure. However, I was told that a local excision only worked on rectal cancers not those in the sigmoid.
Long and short of it ..I finally agreed to the surgery..but when I came out of surgery, the doctor told me the polyp was more in my rectum after all and so he had remove about half of my rectum as well as a bit of my sigmoid colon.
He told me the tatooed polyp was lower than first thought.
I am now recovering very slowly..it has been 4 weeks and I am either constipated or have nearly uncontroled diarrhea.
When I got the lab test on my lymph nodes and the removed rectum/sigmoid, I was so happy that they found no cancer. But also feel that this surgery was a mistake and that I will have QOL issues that will never go away.
I am very depressed and in pain.
My 30 year old relationship is in real trouble due to my situation. My lover is concerned with how miserble I am and that I might never be able to have sex with him again. He has pulled away from me when I now need him the most.
Wish there were other gay men that have gone through this I could talk with.