Jun 13, 2004 - 11:55 am
I have only posted here a few times, but I read everything daily. Let me start by saying this is a very depressing post, so if you don't want to be depressed, skip this.
That said, I don't know where else to turn at this point. Oscar, my "sort of Dad" was dx'd as stage III colon cancer in May 2002, with a permanant colostomy has bone mets and brain mets. They did radiation to his humerus bone which is where a tumor was located in March, it is still there though. I don't know how much good it did. Then he fell a month ago and they found 3 brain masses, did 3 weeks of radiation. He is 68 years old, has Medicare and a completely "****" (sorry) Humana HMO policy that covers almost nothing. His doctors have not treated him aggressively, in my opinion. Why they didn't do chemo with the bone mets, I don't know. Well, we thought he wasn't going to last the weekend and he will literally be sleeping 22 hours of of the day and then the next day he will be walking around a bit, eating, and seem 80 % better than the day before. One day he's good, the next day we contemplate taking him to the hospital, but he says he doesn't want to go. The doctor said we were going to see how he was feeling by next Friday and talk about chemo. I think he wants to give it a try, but am I being realistic at this point? I know that if he would have received better care we might not be at this point, but here we are. I read somewhere that if the chemo worked the first time around that it may the next, and it did in his case. Am I being unrealistic? Should we try? Or should we just let him go? I don't know what to do. I'm so sorry to post these questions here, but I get no response on the other boards and I don't know where to go. When he is looking good like he has for the past few days I just want to say "yes, lets do it" and then he slips back to this person who cannot stand on his own and just sleeps. We have 3 good days followed by 5 really bad ones. Any advice I can get would be great. Oscar is in Canada with his brothers and sisters right now playing cribbage in a tournament (cribbage is a card game for anyone that doesn't know what it is)and today he is able to play so I'm happy. Who knows how he will be tomorrow, but we are happy just having the good days whenever we get them. Thank you for listening.